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Holding presentations with confidence as an introvert

One of the things many of us introverts fear the absolute most is having to hold presentations in front of other people. Even worse: in front of a bunch of classmates or co-workers, you don’t really like nor are friends with. Unfortunately, having to hold presentations is a pretty usual thing nowadays… Yet, as something so common in schools and universities, our education system fails at teaching us how to actually become good at it. Especially for us introverts – it’s basically one of the worst situations. We usually dislike putting ourselves into the spotlight anyway – but when it happens against our will (like most of the time), it’s even more of a struggle. But because presenting subjects and ideas became such a normal thing everywhere, there is literally no way to escape it. But there is also a silver lining: with practice (and a couple of tips) it can get easier for all of us! Just to give you an idea about my experience: I used to really hate holding presentations. It wasn’t …

Why being spontaneous is hard for introverts

For the longest time, I actually thought that I was the most spontaneous person on earth.  I always disliked having plans or setting dates into my calendar. I felt like I needed maximum flexibility every day of the year. Committing to plans? No way. Even the thought made me feel like I’m putting myself into a prison. There are only a few exceptions I was willing to make – other than that, I tried my best to avoid these kinds of things. But does that make me spontaneous? No, it doesn’t. I just recently discovered that the reason for “planning” my life this way was more based on fear than anything else. The fear of letting go, the fear of the unknown … even the fear of leaving my normal daily routine that made me feel safe. As an introvert, I can tell you that being “spontaneous” is not exactly something I like doing. And if you’re honest with yourself, you might feel the same way about that – and that’s totally okay! Because, you …

How to make and maintain new friendships as an introvert

As I’m living the life of an introvert myself, I know from my own experience how hard it can be to make friends. Real friends. Those you can count on whenever something happens, who are there for when you need their help or advice and who would always have your back if you’re in a situation. Not that those situations would happen, since most of us introverts usually live a very calm and settled life but – you know – just in case! Who wouldn’t want to have a reliable friend like that?  Growing up as the introverted kid that I was (and still am), I definitely struggled with finding the right people and becoming friends with them! I used to be a very shy and reserved kind of person which – guess what – wasn’t really the easiest foundation to make any kind of friendships but I eventually figured it out and found a way around it. So here I am today, explaining to you how to make real friends and connections yourself so …

Guide: 5 ways to boost your self-confidence every day!

If there’s something a lot of introverts struggle with then it’ll be self-confidence. This can have many reasons, one being that many introverts experience bullying (mentally and physically) throughout their whole lives as well as unhealthy relationships with people who aren’t supportive of them. This and talking yourself down as a side-effect often results in having only very low self-confidence or even worse, none at all! As the (mostly) very reserved introverted human beings that we are, I bet we can all benefit from a little more confidence in our lives!  Even if you haven’t experienced bullying or any other kind of mistreatment because of who you are, I’m sure there have been situations that have been making you feel less confident at some point. In this extrovert-oriented society, sometimes it can be hard to stand your ground when you have to!  People have subconsciously put you into a box based on your introverted nature without you even knowing it and at times that makes them think they are allowed to treat you a certain …

How to spot energy vampires & get rid of them

As you might know from my previous blogposts socializing is essential for every human being. Even for introverts! We all need to have friends in our lives and people we feel close to. As introverts, we are certainly no exception. We might survive longer without having any social contact just because our desire and need for constant social interaction is lower than those of extroverts, but despite that, we still need people we can talk to every now and then. One thing I find really important and I hope you can agree with me on this, is that we as introverts have to be very careful on who we choose to spend our energy on. Otherwise, we will feel completely drained after, only having a simple conversation with someone. This isn’t good at all, especially if the day has only started and you still have a lot of things on your plate to do later on.  Of course, often we can’t know in advance if a conversation will drain us from our energy. People are …

3 Things you don’t want to miss out on as an introvert

As I’m a huge introvert myself, I know too well how hard it can be to motivate yourself to leave your house or your room. If there is literally nothing outside of your home that you fancy to see or to experience, why should you want to leave it then? If you are like me, there always has to be a good reason to make you want to leave your house and I can tell you right now, that for me this doesn’t happen often. I will always rather choose to stay at home than going out if I can’t find a good point in doing it otherwise. Assuming you are an introvert yourself reading this right now, you’ll definitely know what I’m talking about! Especially if the room you’re spending the most of your time in is as fully equipped as mine, the reason for leaving it needs to be extra good! And still, here I am today naming you my top 3 favorite things that are all happening outside of your home and that …

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The fear of wasting your time and how I managed to lose it completely

Time. We all know about the concept of time. Every day consists of 24 hours. Every hour has 60 minutes. Every minute has 60 seconds. And most importantly: time never stops. As you are starting to read this blog post, time is passing by every millisecond. Sometimes we notice it because we are used to looking at a clock multiple times a day. On other times its nature that tells us. When the sun sets, we know the evening has arrived. When the sun rises, we know that a new day has begun. Times rules everything. It tells us when we have to get to bed. It tells us when we have to arrive at work. And it for sure tells us, how much free time we have left after returning home. And if you’re an introvert like me, “free time” is the most important part of the day for you. Free time is the most important time of the day for mostly every introvert In my free time I do all the things I …