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Why where you live matters as an introvert (and HSP)

This probably doesn’t come to you as a surprise considering my website’s name (and on every other social media platform), but let me say it anyway: I’m german 🙂 And you might have already guessed it, I also live in Germany. More specifically, I live in the south of Germany, somewhere quite a bit outside of Bavaria’s biggest city Munich. And let me tell you, I’m so incredibly glad about the location I live in. Far away from the city, but also close enough that going to the city doesn’t take longer than an hour. (In case I need to be there for some reason.) After getting to know myself better and better over the past years and learning about my introversion and highly sensitive nature, I’m incredibly thankful that I don’t live in or too close to the city. And to be honest with you… the happier I become in my own skin, the more I actually crave to move away even more. Funny enough, it hasn’t always been this way! When I was a teenager, …

My New Year’s Resolutions & Hopes for 2021 🎇

Wow, 2020 will soon be over, and honestly, I can’t wait for the new year to begin. 2020 was a lot! Not only for me but for so many other people from all around the world. I think it’s about time that this year finally comes to an end! Though, I will admit, 2020 was not only bad for me… it for sure also has its good moments. For example, that being an introvert never felt this good in my entire life than it did this year. I just wish the circumstances were different… But in case you don’t share the same feelings about 2020 like me, I have some fantastic news for you: Tomorrow, we’ll be all starting into a full new year of possibilities, open doors, and chances! My fingers are crossed that 2021 will be a fantastic year for each and every one of us! Today, because it’s the last day of 2020, I decided to share with you my resolutions for the new upcoming year of 2021. Maybe this will inspire …

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Stepping out of your comfort zone as an introvert & my experiences!

I know, stepping out of your comfort zone as an introvert is scary. I can say that from my own experience. Even now, I still get anxious every freaking time I choose to do something that feels a little bit new, although I’ve been doing it quite a lot in the past months! Regardless, I also know how important it is — for your growth as a person, but also as an introvert! Why is leaving your comfort zone essential for you as an introvert? Generally speaking, leaving your comfort zone is always a good idea — even though it may feel quite a bit challenging! Every time you leave your comfort zone, you provide your brain with new input, which it can use to f.e. become better at coping with stressful situations and become better at finding solutions for uprising problems. It’s also an excellent way to help you learn from mistakes and, with that, learn to predict future steps. Lastly, it’s also a good way to show you what you are made of, which …

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Why you need extroverted friends as an introvert!😊

No personality type is more idealized in our society than the extroverted personality type. Especially in business, extroverts are like the popstars entrepreneurs all recruiters look up to. Pretty much everybody wants to be like them, and honestly, I can’t blame them! Extroverts – are they really so special? Most extroverts are really fun to be around, and many for sure know how to win the crowd. That’s also why so many actors, singers, comedians, and public speakers are extroverts. Yet, not every extrovert is like that – even between extroverts, there are can be huge differences in character and personality that makes each extrovert unique. Still, most extroverts have it easier a lot easier than us the introverts, when it comes to social interactions and social life in general. Contrary to us introverts, extroverts are usually more open towards the new. New faces don’t make them this nervous, they are also way more talkative than us, and they usually don’t have huges struggles with feeling comfortable in a new situation. An extrovert also doesn’t …

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3 Signs you might not be a real introvert – maybe you’re an extrovert or ambivert?🤷‍♀️

As an introvert, I know what it feels like to be one. I was born an introvert, and I will most certainly die an introvert as well. It’s nothing that changes over time or that I can influence to change. So, you could say, at this point, I’m quite sure that there is no way I will ever experience what it feels like not to be an introvert. (Scary thought that there are people who don’t know what it feels like, huh?) As an introvert, I’m quite sure I know how most introverts feel like deep inside. I know from my own experience where particular behavior comes from, and I think I can kind of predict it as well, thanks to my knowledge in psychology. I don’t believe that people don’t have a free will – even an introvert can behave totally differently to their personality if they want to. Still, I think that most of us have specific behaviorism in common, making it easy to tell us from extroverts apart. Have you been mistyping …

How to make to-do lists work for you as an introvert & HSP

One of the things that are highly prioritized in our society is” productivity“. No matter if at home or work, getting the most done in the shortest time is the goal for many in most cases. It’s all about ticking the most off your to-do lists: to satisfy your boss, to give yourself the validation of being a hard-working and successful part of society, and to earn yourself your well deserved time off afterward. In a society that is extrovert-oriented and very achievement-focused, people who can’t finish their to-do lists very quickly are often seen as “lazy” and “unsuccessful” people. Lazy people who aren’t dedicated and willing enough to work hard every day will never be successful because they need too much time to finish their tasks. Those who can’t keep up with the pace of everyone else are looked down on, and are often being called out for not giving 110% — all day and every day.” Time is money”. Why daily to-do lists usually don’t work for highly-sensitive introverts As an introvert and HSP, …

Melatonin: A lifesaver for introverts with sleeping problems?

Ever had a night where you could barely fall asleep? Where you spent hours trying to calm your body down while watching your thoughts going back and forth on a topic you thought you’d had already forgotten about? If you answered this with a loud yes, please keep on reading, because I might have found the perfect solution to your sleeping problem! But first, let me tell you a bit about my past experiences with sleep… Like pretty much everyone in my family, I’ve always struggled with falling asleep. This started already when I was just beginning to go to school and hasn’t changed ever since. I’m 22 now and still can’t manage to fall asleep like the average person and struggle with it a lot to this very day. My struggles during the nights as an introvert I’m one of those people who suffer from a very active brain during the nights. While my body is already done for the day, and my eyes are getting more tired every hour, my brain isn’t nearly …

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Self-care tips for bad days as an introvert

I think we all have those weird days where we don’t really feel like ourselves. Everything could possibly make us cry, nothing really makes us happy, and we don’t want to talk to anyone! Often, it feels like there is no real reasoning behind it, but we know that there is this huge imbalance inside of us that really wants to be taken care of. If you feel like that right now, I hope this will help you get out of this negative mental state again! Step-by-step: Self-care for bad days 1. Slow down, my friend! Drop everything you intended to do today and slow down. You are your top priority right now, so don’t be too hard on yourself, put away the leftover tasks for today, and postpone every single one of them until you feel like yourself again. This is important. Give yourself the space to breathe again and remove any unnecessary stress that could affect your mental well-being right now. Your introverted self needs a pause from everything! 2. Turn off your …

5 Things I wish I knew before as a young introvert

Growing up as an introvert in a society that really didn’t understand that introverted people are allowed to exist without having to fix them wasn’t easy. I always felt like an outcast. Like someone who just didn’t fit in and will never because of my “weird personality.” A personality that felt totally right to me, but everybody else seemed to have a problem with it. I never understood why I was so different – or what made me so different, I just knew that I was. Today, looking back at my self-conscious, shy, and insecure introverted self, I really wished I would be able to time travel to tell myself all the things that I know now… Nonetheless, today I’m sharing with you 5 things I wish I knew when I was a young introvert in my teen years: Your time is sacred. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want you to think that people need to deserve your time and attention. However, what I do want you to know is that you don’t have unlimited …

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How to get started: Intuitive journaling for introverts

If you’re one of my followers on Instagram, you know that I love to journal! This has many reasons, one being that I find it to be an incredibly relaxing and grounding practice and two, also experience it to be a very helpful tool to explore my inner world without creating more chaos in it. That’s why, nowadays, I journal nearly every day – depending on the current life circumstances I’m in. Sometimes I skip a couple of days, but when I do, I always kind of miss it from my routine.  How have I started my (intuitive) journaling practice? I started my journaling practice back in September 2019 as part of a gratitude exercise I was doing at that time. This gratitude exercise was supposed to help me see more positivity in my life and create an overall more positive outlook on life itself. This mainly included writing down lists of things that I was grateful each day for a time span of four weeks into a journal or diary.  After the second week of writing …