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Stepping out of your comfort zone as an introvert & my experiences!

I know, stepping out of your comfort zone as an introvert is scary. I can say that from my own experienceEven now, I still get anxious every freaking time I choose to do something that feels a little bit new, although I’ve been doing it quite a lot in the past months! Regardless, I also know how important it is — for your growth as a person, but also as an introvert!

Why is leaving your comfort zone essential for you as an introvert?

Generally speaking, leaving your comfort zone is always a good idea — even though it may feel quite a bit challenging! Every time you leave your comfort zone, you provide your brain with new input, which it can use to f.e. become better at coping with stressful situations and become better at finding solutions for uprising problems.

It’s also an excellent way to help you learn from mistakes and, with that, learn to predict future steps. Lastly, it’s also a good way to show you what you are made of, which can help you grow your confidence!

What if you don’t want to leave your comfort zone?

Don’t get me wrong. I feel you. As an introvert, who is also more on the anxious side, I really love my comfort zone. Motivating myself to do something unfamiliar costs me tremendous amounts of courage and willpower. And if I lack any of those, chances are I’ll probably rather stay with what I know and not leave my comfort zone at all.

But — not leaving your comfort zone every now and then also means that everything will always stay the same. Your surroundings, the circumstances you are in — even yourself.

It means to always and forever stick to the things that you are used to and comfortable with. There won’t be any growth, no new experiences, and no learning — not even from mistakes! Because most of those things happen outside of your comfort zone.

Yes, you can grow as a person staying inside your comfort zone. But not as much as you can outside of it!

Apart from personal growth, not leaving our comfort zone can cause various other issues that might hinder you from living your life to the fullest. F.e., losing interest in chasing after your dreams or lack of perseverance – as both require from you to leave your comfort zone from time to time.

About my experiences with leaving my comfort zone

Believe it or not, but leaving my comfort zone is not easy for me, too. Not at all! I tend to have really high expectations of myself sometimes, making it not easy for me to do things I’m not yet familiar with. For example, starting this blog and my whole social media presence has been quite a huge decision out of my comfort zone!

When I first started to blog and be on social media as a content creator, I really had no clue where I wanted to go with this. But I knew one thing for sure – that I was scared shitless anyone would find my stuff, judge me for it, and then bully me again for the things I post online. Back then, I barely had any confidence in myself and have barely tried to do something outside of what felt comfortable for me. I really enjoyed staying in my comfort zone…

Learning & growing as an introvert

Over time, I slowly started to feel more comfortable with the things I shared online and who I grew into. And this huge step out of my comfort zone really motivated me to take one step after the next even further outside of it. Not only on social media or my blog but also in my general day-to-day life.

What looked like little baby steps to others felt giant steps for me, though!

And all these giant steps made me more confident in handling situations, approaching new possibilities and ideas, and who I am as a person. I started to listen more to myself, my intuition, and my heart and also began to ignore what other people said about me or others. Suddenly, I felt like there was barely any room for negative self-talk, and so I kind of just stopped.

Of course, I can’t say that what other people say about me (or others) doesn’t bother me anymore, but I do believe that I definitely made some improvements regarding this in the past couple of months!

My advice for you as an anxious introvert

I believe that what really motivated me – especially as an introvert – was slowly stepping out of my comfort zone more and more with every time while having a goal set into my mind.

I had to think of the bigger purpose of me doing certain things and trying to overcome any of my fears. Like putting myself in front of the camera for the first time ever and speak about things that matter to me. Or recording reels on Instagram to share meaningful or lightweight and funny content.

Forcing yourself to do something out of your comfort zone without having a bigger intention in mind won’t work – at least it didn’t work for me!

Lastly, watching other people do the things you’re most afraid of and breaking down the steps to get there also helps a lot. Please be aware that you don’t start to compare yourself with those people, though. Watch to get inspiration from them and encourage yourself to do the same, but not to bring yourself down or even get jealous. I promise, you’ll get there!

Small steps are better than no steps at all!

Feel free to share with me your experiences with leavin your comfort zone as an introvert down in the comments or over on social media!

For more inspiration on life as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

My journey: Learning to accept my introverted personality

Growing up as an introvert in a society that isn’t very appreciative of quiet people wasn’t easy. Knowing that people didn’t accept or like me for who I was – and still am – was tough. Most people found my personality to be VERY odd, to say the least. Barely anyone understood me. I saw it. I heard it. People even told me that right to my face. You can imagine that this alone made me believe all kinds of negative things about myself. Eventually, it even led me to neglect my own personality and forcing myself to be like how people wanted me to be. Even though it made me really upset and didn’t work for me at all, I thought this was the only right way. Unfortunately, this is something many other introverts out there experience as well. Do you recognize yourself?

It’s safe to say that most of my life I spend hating myself. No, I was no “special snowflake” or someone who pretended to be so different. I actually was different. So different that I spent the first 18 years of my life not only feeling like an outcast but also living the life of an outcast, including being bullied for years and being taken advantage of by numerous people who never actually cared about me. Does this sound familiar to you?

It took me some time to realize that I wasn’t the problem.

My self-discovery journey

Leaving high-school and switching to university was my jump start into a new life. It’s also where my self-discovery journey, that ultimately inspired me to start building up my Instagram page began. (By the way, if you don’t follow me on Instagram yet, feel free to check it out — my page: thegermanintrovert)

I was just at beginning of understanding myself when I decided to share my thoughts online

It was somewhere around the internet, a couple of months prior to creating my Instagram Page, that I stumbled across the terms of “introversion” and “extroversion”. When I read about the “introversion” side of the spectrum I started to realize one thing: What if I’m not a lost cause, but just an introvert who has been taught that she needed to be and act contrary to her personality to fit into the extrovert-oriented expectations of our society?

As someone who was already very interested in psychology, I just had to start doing my research on this topic from that point on. And yes, you could say I kind of got obsessed with it! (No wonder I just HAD to start studying psychology this year after finishing my first degree in business administration and marketing.)

Reading more and more about introversion and what psychologists had to say about it as the core nature of someone’s personality literally changed everything for me. Suddenly everything started to make sense to me and I slowly began accepting myself for who I was with every following day.

What came next?

If you are an introvert yourself who just recently started to really get to know yourself (maybe after stumbling across my Instagram or my Blog), you know that learning abot you being an introvert changes a lot. And so it did for me! But with all the things that changed (f or the better!) also came a lot of work. Work that I had to put into myself to create a life that fits my needs and personality.

>>Read my blogpost: This changed since I started to accept my introverted self<<

1. Letting go of toxic friendships

This one was honestly the most challenging step in my self-discovery and self-acceptance journey! Letting go of people is never easy – especially not the toxic ones, as they have a way to gaslight you into believing all kinds of nasty things about yourself and your reality.

Of course, some toxic people aren’t necessarily bad people! Some just don’t fit into your life anymore, which doesn’t make it any easier to let go of them.

It sure might feel like you’re breaking up with someone, but it’s honestly so worth it. It’s very liberating and kind of feels like a fresh start when you manage to get rid of people who only hold you back from your true potential. Plus, as an introvert, you already lose so much energy just by interacting with people. So, you for sure don’t want to waste your energy on toxic ones.

2. Challenging old beliefs & thoughts

Another big step in my self-discovery journey was to take a really close look into my belief system. What do I think about myself? What have people make me believe? What has society taught me? Challenging each belief and thought I had at back then was vital for me to make progress in my personal growth as an introvert.

Why?, you might ask.

As I said at the beginning, people and society made me believe all kinds of negative things about myself. They made me believe that something was wrong with me. That I needed to fix parts of myself and become how they wanted me to be. So I can finally be liked by other people for once! And as someone who got bullied from an early age on, I really believed everything other people had to say about me.

So, detaching myself from what I believed was true (especially about myself) and reevaluating every single thought and belief I had was extremely important for me, so I could eventually start seeing myself as who I really was!

3. Getting to know my needs and acting accordingly

Lastly, getting to know my needs – and I mean, like really getting to know them – was absolutely a necessity for me during my self-discovery journey. I knew that I always felt more drawn to specific activities and ways of living, but I never actually knew the reason behind it. So, getting to know me as an introvert and learning to accept myself as that included to also look deeper into what I like and care about and what brings me joy or not.

This automatically made me feel less ashamed of myself and even made me proud of liking the things I like, because I started to see the reasons behind it!

It also made me more aware of who I am and what I need to be happy. Suddenly, doing things I disliked or I didn’t felt like doing felt more wrong than ever. Pushing myself over the edge only so I won’t be seen as boring, or even worse, make someone not like me? Definitely not happening anymore!

Self-acceptance starts with you. Wanting to be somebody else is a waste of time. (Marilyn Monroe)

Where are you on your self-discovery journey right now? Feel free to comment or message me on Instagram to share with me your experiences as an introvert. Would love to hear from you!

For more inspiration on life as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

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Why you need extroverted friends as an introvert!😊

No personality type is more idealized in our society than the extroverted personality type. Especially in business, extroverts are like the popstars entrepreneurs all recruiters look up to. Pretty much everybody wants to be like them, and honestly, I can’t blame them!

Extroverts – are they really so special?

Most extroverts are really fun to be around, and many for sure know how to win the crowd. That’s also why so many actors, singers, comedians, and public speakers are extroverts. Yet, not every extrovert is like that – even between extroverts, there are can be huge differences in character and personality that makes each extrovert unique. Still, most extroverts have it easier a lot easier than us the introverts, when it comes to social interactions and social life in general.

Contrary to us introverts, extroverts are usually more open towards the new. New faces don’t make them this nervous, they are also way more talkative than us, and they usually don’t have huges struggles with feeling comfortable in a new situation. An extrovert also doesn’t mind group projects or spending extra time with co-workers after their shift to strengthen their relationship with each other.

All in all, extroverts are really good at anything that requires social communication! But should we introverts hate them for that, because communication usually isn’t our strong suit? No, of course not.

Instead of secretly hating your extroverted co-workers or fellow students at university or school, how about connecting with each other to establish a friendship that is of mutual help to each other?

The benefits of having an extroverted friend

Let me introduce you to a couple of reasons why you should have extroverted friends as an introvert! Of course, it’s not mandatory to have one if you can’t seem to connect with any extrovert on a more personal level. But I can assure you that being friends with one you enjoy to occasionally spend your time with can be super fun as well as beneficial to you.

1. No more awkward silence

As already mentioned, extroverts are really good at talking. Not everyone is great at it, but they usually know how to fill the silence and jump from one conversation topic to the next.

How does this help you? As introverts, we all know the struggle of keeping a conversation going. Especially with people we barely know, this can be very challenging. For extroverts, not so much! They probably do not even notice that you’re struggling and naturally take over the conversation, so you don’t have to worry about unintentionally creating an awkward silence.

2. They cheer you on when you’re scared

Extroverted people aren’t nearly naturally as scared as we introverts are. This is because their brain enjoys the new stimulation they get from being at unfamiliar and new places and generally making new experiences wherever they go! We introverts are quite the contrary. Of course, not every one of us gets super anxious, but we all tend to be way more careful and cautious than others. Sometimes, this makes us very hesitant to try new things even though we know that we would enjoy it.

Extroverts can be of great help when it comes to these kinds of situations! They usually aren’t scared of trying out new things and way more willing to have those new experiences — even if they feel scared. Seeing your extrovert friend doing something with barely any hesitation and watching it go well can help you gather your courage to make the same step forward.

3. Need company? Say no more!

If I know one thing for sure, it’s that having an extroverted friend is absolutely a life-saver whenever you need to go somewhere new but feel unsure of going on your own. Most extroverts, if not all, are always down to accompany you if you need their emotional support – at least if they aren’t somewhat bad people, and you actually have the guts to tell them that you need their help.

I really envy this about extroverts because I wish I could lend someone this unique kind of (emotional) support that an extrovert can provide! And I do hope you have someone in your life who can lend you exactly this type of support when you need it.

4. Always there if you need someone to talk

The last thing I want to bring up yet again are the insane communication skills of an extrovert compared to us introverts. This not only comes in handy whenever they are in social situations, perhaps with groups or business partners, but also in normal day-to-day life. Which also includes situations where someone is upset or sad and needs someone else to talk to.

I know that it’s not very common for introverts that we feel like we have to talk to someone. But just in case it ever happens and you do feel like you have to talk about your problems and feelings and everything else that has been overwhelming you lately – an extroverted friend might be your best option to get it all out. This, of course, doesn’t mean that an introverted friend can’t be as helpful – not at all! Talking to a fellow introvert can be insanely useful in many ways, but only if you’re ready to truly open up about the things that are going on in your mind. In case you don’t, an extrovert might be the better option!

At the end of the day…. it doesn’t matter if your friend is an extrovert or not. What matters is if your friend is a kindhearted person who supports you whenever you need help. A fellow introvert who gets you can be just as powerful of a friend as any extrovert could possibly be!

“It is the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.”

Marlene Dietrich

And just in case you’re wondering right now why this article reads like you’re reading about yourself, but you identify yourself as an introvert – chances are you’re not actually introverted! Read my previous blog post to get to know yourself better >> “3 Signs you might not be a real introvert”

For more inspiration on life as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

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3 Signs you might not be a real introvert – maybe you’re an extrovert or ambivert?🤷‍♀️

As an introvert, I know what it feels like to be one.

I was born an introvert, and I will most certainly die an introvert as well. It’s nothing that changes over time or that I can influence to change. So, you could say, at this point, I’m quite sure that there is no way I will ever experience what it feels like not to be an introvert. (Scary thought that there are people who don’t know what it feels like, huh?)

As an introvert, I’m quite sure I know how most introverts feel like deep inside. I know from my own experience where particular behavior comes from, and I think I can kind of predict it as well, thanks to my knowledge in psychology. I don’t believe that people don’t have a free will – even an introvert can behave totally differently to their personality if they want to. Still, I think that most of us have specific behaviorism in common, making it easy to tell us from extroverts apart.

Have you been mistyping yourself for an introvert?

So in this blog post, I want to share a couple of facts to help you figure out if you have been mistyping yourself or are indeed an introvert. Trust me, this can happen quite easily, considering introversion-extroversion being a spectrum and all the misconceptions about introverts in our society!

Here are the 3 signs you might have mistyped yourself for being introverted:

1. You love talking to people and meeting up with them!

Starting off with an obvious one! As an introvert, this couldn’t be more not true for me. It’s not that I hate people or hate talking to them, but I honestly could go days without talking to or seeing anyone and wouldn’t be bothered by it in the slightest. For extroverts, this sounds probably more like a nightmare! The only ones that could possibly manage it, while still being a bit sad about it at some point are ambiverts, in my opinion.

I noticed, that especially during quarantine, extroverts have had the biggest struggles. I saw them crying online and going into quarantine with friends, because they couldn’t bear the lack of human contact. Some were even falling into depression because of it. If that is or was something you struggled with during quarantine, I hate to break it to you, but you’re most definitely not an introvert.

2. You find solutions to problems by talking about them with others!

For introverts, it’s quite natural that we think before we speak. (That’s why most of us, if not all, are huge overthinkers!) This also goes for when we are facing problems and need to find solutions for it. I can tell you, before an introvert decides to ask anyone for help or talk to anyone about it in some way or another, we will first try to figure it out ourselves. This includes thinking about specific outcomes, sketching out different ways of approaching the problem, and creating multiple scenarios to see where it could lead us.

Extroverts tend to approach problems in quite the opposite way! They usually have to talk to someone about the issue they are facing. They develop their solution to a problem by talking with someone about it and all the various scenarios and as well as ways of approaching it. While introverts think before they speak, extroverts think while and after talking. You’re most likely not an introvert if you can resonate more with the extrovert’s way than the introvert’s way of solution-finding.

3. You have a huge friend group and are always in touch with everyone!

Lastly, I also want to mention that introverts are usually pretty private people. We don’t have large friend groups or tons of close friends. I personally prefer to have a small circle of friends with a maximum of 5 people, which is a really high number for an introvert if you ask me. I literally don’t have the capacity nor the energy to be friends with more people than that. And even now, with having 5 friends, it’s really hard for me to take care of each of these friendships properly. I really like each person, but I often just don’t have the energy to meet and spend time with each of them.

As I said earlier, I don’t hate people, and I’m also not afraid of them (most of the time at least), but as an introvert, I really don’t need as much social contact as extroverts or even ambiverts would to be happy. This also goes for chatting over text messages, calling each other over the phone and all the other things. I check my text messages probably once a day and I think that’s completely enough for me.

Honestly, I’m that much of a private person that it happens quite regularly that I just forget that other people, including my friends, still exist. Isn’t that crazy? 😀

There’s more to consider when typing yourself!

Of course, there many more things to consider when trying to type yourself, either being more introverted or extroverted. It’s a spectrum, and ambiverts prove that some people really are just somewhere right in the middle. There are many tests online that you can do to figure out where you lean more towards to and doing a little research always helps.

As an introvert, I always have kind of known, even if I didn’t know the term for describing it. But if you find yourself questioning if you actually fit into the “I’m an introvert” category, chances are that you’re actually not that much of an introvert.

How introverted would you say are you on a scale from 0 (not at all) to 10 (very introverted)?

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

Welcome fall! 🌻 Why I love fall & how I make the most of it as an introverted homebody

It’s September, dear introverts – my most favorite season of the year is back!

And of course, I’m celebrating the arrival of this beautiful season by drinking freshly made herbal tea, wearing fuzzy socks, and binge-watching my favorite Halloween themed tv show episodes. Have I already mentioned how much I actually love fall? 😉

As an introvert, fall is my most favorite season for two reasons:

I don’t have to feel guilty for staying inside

Firstly, people finally stop making us introverts feel bad for preferring to spend our time inside at home rather than outside in public places. The weather is getting colder every day, and pretty much no one actually enjoys cold temperatures. Therefore, wanting to stay inside all day long rather than walking around outside in the cold, especially while it rains, is socially acceptable. Love that!

People start to focus more on solo activities

And secondly, the people will start to rediscover the joy of indulging in solo activities like reading books, watching TV shows or movies, and playing video games 24/7 around this time of the year, which really takes away a lot of the pressure that society puts on people like us! It seems like people respect it more and don’t judge you for not wanting to socialize.

I feel a strong connection to the Fall season

Lastly, I love fall because September is my birth month, and I naturally feel very drawn to the Fall season.I’m also a sucker for all the Halloween related spooky things.👻 I also just love the overall color theme of this beautiful season. Earthy tones are my most favorite colors!

Here are some of my most favorite activities to make most of this Fall season:

How I make the most of the Fall season as an introvert

Even though Fall is really the most perfect season for introverts, I have also experienced very dull days and even weeks as an introvert during Fall. The key to making the most of the Fall season as an introvert? Balance & variation!

Get outside whenever the sun shines!

Going for walks during fall is by far one of the most beautiful things. I personally love seeing the brown leaves falling from the branches of the trees while watching the sun softly shine through them and creating this beautiful, unique atmosphere that just makes my heart happy.

The physical movement is the icing on the cake for me. It really helps me to maintain a happy mental state, and for someone who is naturally rather lazy, it is definitely great for my physical health to get outside on a walk as well. Under the compromise to only (or mostly) go for walks when the sun shines makes it less overwhelming for me. (And if you feel like it, you can still go outside on misty or rainy days as well. Personally, seeing the sun shine motivates me a lot more than rain.)

Get crafty or creative – or both!

For me, Fall is the perfect time to pick up old hobbies, get more skilled at current ones, and just to try out new things in general. The whole Fall vibe really gets me into this really wonderful creative headspace, and that’s why it makes even more fun for me to really create and try out new things around this time.

Need some ideas? I always collect and dry leaves from trees during Fall. 🍁 Often I will collect them when I’m on one of my walks that I just mentioned and decorate my room and my windows with them when they are dried.

Another thing I really want to do this Fall is getting better at drawing. I’m really into creating digital content and I would love to get started with creating digital art as well. I already did my first couple of tries around last Fall in 2019, but I want to get better at it. (I might be showing you my progress on my Instagram Stories and on my Patreon Page at some point!)

Is there something you can think of that you want to start doing during this Fall?

Why not bake something and try out new recipes!

I’m a huge fan of baking, and I do have my favorite recipes. But I also like to try new ones and be a little creative while putting them to the test. Last Fall, this is exactly how I discovered my iconic homemade cinnamon rolls recipe! >> Click here to check it out: Cinnamon rolls á la The German Introvert<<. I don’t have any baking-related goals for this Fall season, but I’ll definitely try to re-create a couple of chocolate cookie recipes! Are you in? Of course, I’ll be sharing with you my most favorite ones!

Go on a self-discovery journey with yourself

If you follow me on my Instagram Stories, you know that I’m a huge fan of journaling. I love it so much, and it has been so beneficial to me in many ways! >>Click here to learn how to get started with intuitive journaling.<< It had helped go through many downs and negative feelings in the past and has been my outlet (positive and negative) whenever I needed it. But it also has been a place for growth, development, and reflection as well!

What I really love about journaling is that I can always grab it and just browse through the pages. Reading about past feelings and experiences allows me to gain new perspectives on things, reflect on my past behavior, and make better choices in the future. Fall seems to be the perfect season to go on a little self-discovery journey, don’t you think? Journaling for sure is one of the best ways to do that.

You don’t know how to start your journaling practice and need some guidance? I offer monthly journal prompts on my Patreon. Click here to check out my Patreon Page!

Was I able to inspire you to make the most of this year’s Fall season?

I wish you a wonderful fall!🌻

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media and my patreon community. I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and support you on your way of growth!

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The life of an introvert: An interview with Mike; Photographer & Marketing Manager #CommunityMonth

Yay – welcome to the last interview of this very special introvert community month!

This month, I’m going to introduce you to four wonderful introverts from all around the world who will share with you their stories and life experiences as introverts. This interview is the third interview of this whole series. If you missed the first two, please check out the Interview with Tasmin Lowe, the Interview with Franziska Marx and the Interview with Maria afterward!

Let’s meet today’s guest: Mike!

Question: “Want to introduce yourself?”

Answer: My name is Mike, I’m 35 years old and my hobbies are photography, reading, graphic designing and cycling. I work as a Marketing Manager. My aspirations are being a writer, photographer, diplomat and humanist.

Q: “Have you always known you were an introvert?”

A: In 2018, I came to know I was an introvert after taking an MBTI test. Later, that was validated by natal chart and introspection of events from the past that led me to believe that I was introverted. It was interesting yet surreal. Today, it makes me accept my core and act accordingly whereas all these years I wasn’t and that was because I was ignorant in some ways and faking in many ways in order to be validated and accepted by people or the world at large.

Q: “Has being an introvert influenced your childhood?”

A: I was always shy and scared to open up. But when I did open up, I could have conversations. But in conversations, after a point of time, I would end up speaking more thus making the others around me uncomfortable and irritated.

I was humiliated and bullied for many reasons including being dumb and stupid in front of them. People would take the mick out of me for being very naïve and weird. Matter of fact I still do get mocked. Since I am also a highly sensitive person, I come across as gay or even very feminised.

Q: “How does your daily life look like as an introvert?”

A: Since I am an INFP (MBTI), I feel more, romanticize more, idealise more, infatuate more, and be very impulsive. I have come across as very attractive so women have liked me in the instant but not after a few minutes. Even in past relationships, women have taken undue advantage of me being nice. In one way, I forgive them for their actions. In another, I do not as they have played with my emotions.

Q: “With what kind of situation do you struggle with the most?”

A: As an introverted HSP, I was also attracted to toxic people in professional and personal life and that has been a huge challenge and struggle for me. I go out of my way to help people. Sometimes I have expected something in return and sometimes not. Expecting love, kidness, and affection has been the only things I have always wanted because I do not have interest in materialistic things.

Q: “What advice would you give your younger self for situations that were uncomfortable?”

A: I’d tell my young introverted self that the world is an oyster and you have plenty of options to choose from be it work, food, relationships, etc but sooner or later you will and you should know about yourself. You may hit rock bottom or get depressed but that would help you know yourself. Then, be thankful to everyone and everything that led you up to that point. You will meet people who’d like you and dislike you, lie to you and be honest with you, break your heart or help you recover, and these could be your family, friends, acquaintances, and strangers. But, they are all teaching you something. Focus on the lessons, learn, unlearn, and relearn. Get to know your core. Stay with the core because that will help you and guide you

Q: “What would you advise fellow introverts to do to help them make the most of their lives?”

From my experience, I’d highly recommend the following tips: Meditate, take walks, sleep for 7-8 hours, switch off mobile an hour before sleep, switch on mobile after 30 minutes upon waking up. Drink plenty of tea and get a natal chart reading to get to know yourself a bit more. Set and maintain boundaries.

Thank you so much Mike for letting us into your experiences and life as an introvert!

Do you want to reach out to Mike? Check out her Instagram @thesensitiveinfp and make sure to follow her account to get insights into her life and experiences as an introvert and Slow Life Advocate!

This was the last interview of this months community month. Make sure you subcribed to my blog so won’t be missing out on the next round in November!

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

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The life of an introvert: An interview with Maria; Student & Slow Life Advocate – #CommunityMonth

Yay – welcome to the third interview of this very special introvert community month!

This month, I’m going to introduce you to four wonderful introverts from all around the world who will share with you their stories and life experiences as introverts. This interview is the third interview of this whole series. If you missed the first two, please check out the Interview with Tasmin Lowe and the Interview with Franziska Marx aftward!

Let’s meet today’s guest: Maria!

Instagram: @theportuguesemary

Question: “Want to introduce yourself?”

Answer: My name is Maria, I’m 18 years old, and I’ll soon be studying psychology at University. I’ve also been studying music alongside the regular school for eight years now. I live in Portugal. I love sewing – mostly historical fashion and embroidery-, I also love photography, cooking, and reading/ studying. I am also an advocate for a slower and simpler way of living and a fellow introvert!

Q: “Have you always known you were an introvert?”

A: No, I actually haven’t. For the most part of my life I have not identified myself as an introvert, although I do think it is due to my lack of knowledge regarding the terminology. In retrospect, I’ve always felt like I was a bit different to other girls. I was more reserved, not good at talking with people (in social contexts), and not such a great friendship maker – but because I’ve always needed and loved to be alone and to read, that was, if I recall well, out of my mind for the majority of the time. Only later, as an adult, I started to understand that this was not the norm. I actually only came across the term “introvert” much later – maybe four years ago – and I understood I could really relate to this term. Despite that, it still took me quite some time to do my research and understand that being an introvert can look very different. It comes in several “shapes and forms,” and it’s not a one size fits all kind of thing/designation. This was important for me because although I’m a nervous and sometimes awkward talker – mostly when regarding socializing with people – I do love to discuss specific topics in public and sometimes perform concerts and recitals. That being said, and although it brings me joy, I always find myself much more tired than most of my more extroverted colleagues and prefer to be at home and by myself.

Q: “Has being an introvert influenced your childhood?”

A: Yes, completely. I’ve always loved to be by myself, to read and study a lot throughout my childhood and as a young adult, and I recall never enjoying being with other people for long periods of time or with lots of people in general. Bullying was, unfortunately, a thing, and it has been until now, although I deal with it much better now, and I understand much better why people act this way. I also had problems with sharing personal things, thoughts, and feelings most of the time – mostly because I was a really private child. In truth, it was just a lot later that I learned how to create and nurture some more meaningful deep connections with friends when I grew older.

Q: “How does your daily life look like as an introvert?”

A: With time, I started to understand that I am happier and calmer when I’m less stressed, and that a simple life, the simple things, and simple habits are the ones that help me the most fulfill my heart. My daily life is often a mixture of routines that I know help me feel good — a schedule that helps me organize my day. Although I like to plan things and know that this helps me a lot with anxiety, I do make space for any changes when I need it. Resting for me is really important – as I can only be productive when well-rested – so I try to make sure I sleep well and sufficiently. I also understood with the time that when I start my day slowly and gently, everything else becomes easier, and my day runs a lot smoother; being around people can also be more manageable and less tiresome for me.

Q: “With what kind of situation do you struggle with the most?”

A: Mostly, being in new environments and when around lots of people. But being tired after school or after being outside of the house is also something that I struggle a lot with. When I started to learn playing the flute, I was also starting to struggle with stressful situations. Mostly situations that were connected to competitions that were putting me under pressure. As a highly sensitive person (HSP), it can also be hard to make new friendships as spending time with people can be stressful and tiresome sometimes. 

Q: “Have there been past experiences that helped you grow as an introvert?”

A: Having public performances on stage being part of my life for the past eight years actually made me learn a lot about several ways to calm yourself down, control your nervousness, and be confident. It taught me what actually works for me and what doesn’t! Also having theatre lessons. I was kind of terrible at it – mostly because of my nervousness, awkwardness, and shyness – but finding a loving community that supported my growth was great, and I taught me so much! Searching for new ways of expressing myself and my introverted heart has also been very beneficial.

Q: “With what kind of situations do you no longer struggle with?

A: I think I do still struggle with many things relating to confidence, nervousness, shyness, awkwardness, etc. Recently, I learned some new ways and strategies to help me deal with all that! I try to identify where my insecure feelings come from, which helps me whenever I come home and need to calm myself down. For me, the most effective change in my life and routine has been to switch to a simpler lifestyle – maybe this is not the answer for everyone! Putting myself out of my comfort zone has always – although being hard sometimes – been a blessing for me as well and helped me grow and understand myself better.

Q: “What advice would you give your younger self for situations that were uncomfortable?”

A: I would advise her not to ignore her feelings and feel all that she is experiencing. I would also tell her that everything is going to be fine and that the re-occurring tiredness she feels is normal and has a reason. Another thing I would tell her is that there’s nothing wrong with being and acting differently to others – even if people say so. It will turn out to be a blessing in the future!
Breathe in and breathe out. Don’t do things because you feel obligated to and focus on doing what you feel in your heart is the better and right choice for you.
It is better to have one true friend that ten you don’t feel comfortable with. Society is not always right, and you have the right to slow down and to live at your own pace and rhythm.

Q: “What do you wish for the future of our society regarding introverts?”

I would love to see more understanding surrounding us introverts, and it to be seen as an actual human personality trait and not a condition that needs treatment. I would love people to be more educated on this topic so that introverts and extroverts, as well as parents, are aware of it. I want people to know that it is a beautiful thing to be sensitive and awkward and different and that our inside world is just as important as their outside world.

Thank you so much Maria for letting us into your experiences and life as an introvert!

Do you want to reach out to Maria? Check out her Instagram @theportuguesemary and make sure to follow her account to get insights into her life and experiences as an introvert and Slow Life Advocate!

The next and last interview will be coming next weekend. Make sure you subcribed to my blog so you’ll be notified as soon as it’s up!

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

The life of an introvert: An interview with Franziska Marx; Social Educator and Creative Mind – #CommunityMonth

Yay – welcome to the second interview of this very special introvert community month!

This month, I’m going to introduce you to four wonderful introverts from all around the world who will share with you their stories and life experiences as introverts. This interview is the second interview of this whole series. If you missed the first one, please check out the Interview with Tasmin Lowe from last week!

Let’s meet today’s guest: Franziska Marx!

Instagram: @franzisabenteuer

Question: “Want to introduce yourself?”

Answer: My name is Franzi, I am 26 years old, and I live with my fiancé in Münster, Germany. In my free time, I enjoy working on creative things such as writing, watercolor art, or lettering. I also just recently rediscovered embroidery for myself, which I also have been practicing again since then.

My short-term goal is to continue giving myself the time I need to get used to new situations. My long term dream and aspiration is to achieve small milestones in the creative industry, of course aside from my job as a social educator!

Q: “Have you always known you were an introvert?”

A: I actually didn’t know that for a very long time. If someone had asked me in the past whether or not I would describe myself as an introvert or extrovert, I would have shrugged with my shoulders. I only became aware of this during the past three years, probably at some point during my studies, because I had to move to Heidelberg for it. When I moved, everything was completely new to me and I saw the chance to reinvent myself. And while I did that, I also began to question myself and my (past) actions at the same time. I started to reflect on many things. One thing was for example, that I always have had the tendency to focus more on my inner world. During my time at school, I never really had the chance to get to know this part of myself as I focused more on pleasing those around me and fitting into their picture.

Q: “Has being an introvert influenced your childhood?”

A: In retrospect, I can tell that I have always felt more comfortable in familiar environments. Whenever I found myself in new situations, I always have had a strong need for security. I also always needed some extra time to get used to the new surroundings until I was able to really flourish and with that show the funny and open-minded side of myself.

One example I remember is my first day of primary school. It was a very exciting day for everyone, but as it was a new situation to me, I had this strong need to have someone with me that would help me feel safe and secure. Luckily, my friend from kindergarten was allowed to sit right next to me! I probably wouldn’t have had said a single word, if that wouldn’t have been possible on this day.

Q: “How does your daily life look like as an introvert?”

A: I don’t really enjoy being the center of attention nor talking about private matters with strangers or people I barely know. I have always been more the listener, which I’m really good at if I say so myself, and feel the most comfortable in small groups. I noticed that I also tend to swap between different roles in my daily life. Whenever I’m at work, I tend to mostly show my professional side, while at home or with my inner circle, I can be who I really am.

Q: “With what kind of situation do you struggle with the most?”

A: I have a hard time making myself be part of the conversation whenever I’m in a group setting with unfamiliar people. I tend to remain quiet for the most part of it. Often times, I notice how I really don’t know how to make myself be more open and active in these situations. My shyness definitely plays a huge role, as it makes me be really cautious with everything that I want to do or say.

Q: “Have there been past experiences that helped you grow as an introvert?”

A: Yes! What has really helped me a lot in the past is knowing that I am not alone with the things I experience or struggle with as an introvert! Talking with other fellow introverts about these things and doing my own research has been very beneficial to me. As people say, knowledge is power. Generally, I think it’s also very helpful to regularly write down all the things you think or worry about. For me personally, this gives me access to my inner world and helps me to bring back the peace to myself.

Q: “With what kind of situations do you no longer struggle with?

A: I no longer struggle with acknowledging my own needs and taking care of them and myself the way I should. I also found my way of living a life that gives myself the space I need to be who I am without having to bend or change myself in any way.

Q: “What advice would you give your younger self for situations that were uncomfortable?”

A: If you don’t want to go to a party – then you don’t go! And just because you think you’re different from others doesn’t mean that you can’t be part of the group. Also, you’re not less worthy or valuable just because you’re not like everyone else!

Q: “What do you wish for the future of our society regarding introverts?”

A: I would wish that quiet people get to say something in our society. And that quiet introverts can become just as successful as loud extroverts without getting talked down by others. I wish that we are allowed to be who we are and get appreciated for it.

Thank you so much Franziska for letting us in into your experiences and life as an introvert!

Do you want to reach out to Franziska? Check out her Instagram @franzisabenteuer and make sure to follow her account to get daily insights into her life and experiences as an introvert!

The next interview will be coming soon. Make sure you subcribed to my blog so you’ll be notified as soon as it’s up!

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

The life of an introvert: An interview with Tasmin Lowe; freelancer and author – #CommunityMonth

Yay – it’s Community month!

This month, I’m going to introduce you to four wonderful introverts (from all around the world) who are going to share with you their stories and life experiences to shed light on the difficulties introverts face in our society and in their everyday life. But this series is going to be about more than just bringing awareness to the struggles introverts face on the daily!

It’s also about showing you the differences and similarities between us wonderful introverted human beings and help you see yourself from a new and much more positive perspective by looking through the eyes of other introvert from all different places.

I hope you find this series interesting and helpful. I’m so excited about this!

Let’s meet today’s guest: Tasmin Lowe!

Instagram: @thelowe.lywriter

Question: “Want to introduce yourself?”

Answer: My name is Tasmin Lowe, I am 26 years old and I live in South Africa with my husband and our dog Koda. I am a Freelance writer and editor and I’m currently writing my first book, Think With Me (coincidentally about being an introvert!). Writing has always been a passion of mine and is probably something I will continue to pursue.

Q: “Have you always known you were an introvert?”

A: For as long as I have known what an introvert is, I have known it was who I am. I’ve always been shy, uncomfortable at large friend or family gatherings, and have always lived inside of my mind and imagination. Overthinking and creating realistic (and unrealistic) scenarios in my mind throughout each day comes all to naturally to me.

Q: “Has being an introvert influenced your childhood?”

A: In primary school I made one friend in grade one and she became my best friend through to grade seven. But we only became friends because she came up to me one day during breaktime and said I looked alone and sad (her words). I never made friends easily because I preferred to sit quietly on my own and be out of peoples’ way – something that is still a bit true to this day. Luckily, being an introvert, I never needed a lot of friends and held on dearly to the few best friends I did (and do) have.

I was always focused on myself – never played team sports or did extracurricular activities at school. I did gymnastics, competed as an individual and I was more than content with that. Being an introverted child also kept me from speaking up when I felt uncomfortable, which made it difficult for me to speak up in future. I would rather keep quiet and to myself then say something to cause a scene or be the reason someone got into trouble (unless it was my sister – but our sibling rivalry was healthy and is now over).  

Q: “How does your daily life look like as an introvert?”

A: Working from home means my daily schedule is flexible. Most of my days consist of me finding things to do around the house in-between working on my book or odd jobs. 

When I got married, we moved to the small town where my husband grew up and where his parents still stay. It’s quite a distance away from my home community and friends where I used to live. But we usually see his parents every other day to share a meal or I will go for walks with his sister and mother.

While I am happy to be in the house for a few days, I do enjoy getting outside and am so grateful to have family to walk and visit town with. It makes it a more comfortable experience for me in a town that I’m still not entirely familiar with.

Q: “With what kind of situation do you struggle with the most?”

A: I struggle with new experiences the most. Like moving to a small town, for example, where I don’t know anyone except my family-in-law. Having to find a new doctor, dentist, beautician, job, coffee place and grocery store are all stressful to me. I’ve been living here for almost two years now and I still feel anxious to go the shops or make an appointment at the hairdresser. Next year we will be moving overseas to Qatar and I know that in itself will bring its own stresses and struggles but I try not to think about it too much just yet.

Q: “Have there been past experiences that helped you grow as an introvert?”

A: Moving away from home and friends has been good for me as much as it has, at times, been uncomfortable. Having worked in four different jobs with different work environments has also taught me many things and helped me grow. I met so many different types of people and discovered which social situations were easier for me to handle.

Also, I believe that every past experience I have had has helped me grow in the sense that if there is something I have to do that I’ve done before, I focus on how I managed it last time and it makes me less anxious because I know that I am (because I was) capable.

Q: “With what kind of situations do you no longer struggle with? Do you have tips for others?”

A: I’m not as nervous to meet new people. Over the years it’s something you naturally do more of and it becomes slightly easier each time. I do owe most of this to my husband who is the extrovert of the two of us. He makes me feel more comfortable within myself, which makes me less anxious. In fact, since we have moved here, every time I had to go out or do something in town for the first time, he would come with me to help me realize that it’s not as bad as I build it up in my mind to be, and it’s a manageable experience.

My advice then to those who still struggle with certain situations should rely on the people who are there for them. Share your fears and anxieties – they love and accept you, so there’s no reason to feel embarrassed – after all, everyone needs a little help every now and then. And it’s okay to not feel like you can do things on your own, but you need to realize that, in most cases, you aren’t alone.

Q: “What advice would you give your younger self for situations that were uncomfortable?”

A: Elaborate beyond “I don’t want to”, “I don’t feel like” or, my favorite, “I don’t know”. If a loved one is trying to reach out to help you or understand you better, let them. It will help you as well as your relationship with that person. It’s not always necessary to shut people out because you doubt they will understand your reasoning or will think you’re “just being silly”. Anxiety is real. Mental health issues are real. And it’s something people are finally starting to respect – so why wouldn’t they respect you and the traits that come with being an introvert?

Q: “What do you wish for the future of our society regarding introverts?”

A: I wish people would stop labeling introversion as something negative or something that is mostly negative. I don’t hear society going around making extroverts feel bad about themselves so why should we, as introverts, be made to feel bad about who we are? I think we are widely misunderstood with many misconceptions around what it means to be an introvert. With that said, I also wish that society would take a moment to understand us better and that introverts would find a way to express themselves in order to be understood (in whichever way makes them comfortable).

Thank you so much Tasmin for letting us in into your experiences and life as an introvert!

Do you want to reach out to Tasmin? Check out her Instagram @thelowe.lywriter or write her an email to She’ll be more than happy to welcome you to her Instagram page and answering your messages!

The next interview will be coming soon. Make sure you subcribed to my blog so you’ll be notified as soon as it’s up!

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

How to make to-do lists work for you as an introvert & HSP

One of the things that are highly prioritized in our society is” productivity“. No matter if at home or work, getting the most done in the shortest time is the goal for many in most cases. It’s all about ticking the most off your to-do lists: to satisfy your boss, to give yourself the validation of being a hard-working and successful part of society, and to earn yourself your well deserved time off afterward.

In a society that is extrovert-oriented and very achievement-focused, people who can’t finish their to-do lists very quickly are often seen as “lazy” and “unsuccessful” people. Lazy people who aren’t dedicated and willing enough to work hard every day will never be successful because they need too much time to finish their tasks.

Those who can’t keep up with the pace of everyone else are looked down on, and are often being called out for not giving 110% — all day and every day.” Time is money”.

Why daily to-do lists usually don’t work for highly-sensitive introverts

As an introvert and HSP, I know that I tire quicker than others… Not only whenever I’m in a social situation, but also in my normal daily life where outside stimulation of all sorts make my energy level drop very quickly.

For a highly sensitive introvert, this is a natural process for me, but it’s also the main reason why daily to-do lists are usually very difficult for me to work with.

Compared to others, I need many more moments of rest between tasks to achieve maximum productivity. And I’m not talking about the obligatory 5 to 10 minutes of quick pause. I’m talking about rest up to an hour in-between.

They help me prevent my energy level from dropping faster and faster and even allow me to regain a bit of energy before tackling the next to-do on my list. But as daily to-do lists are meant to be finished off in one day, I can’t allow myself the rest in-between, which makes it very hard for me to finish every task and achieve perfect results at the same time.

The psychology behind daily to-do lists…

Daily to-do lists have this weird psychological effect that makes you want to check off everything of this list very quickly only to reduce the pressure that the mass of to-do’s puts on you. This pressure triggers the hormone cortisol in your body and makes it flood your system to make you work as fast as possible.

Every single time. This isn’t really healthy considering that the amount of stress hormones that are being produced at this moment have very negative effects on your health and don’t contribute to making you work better.

Quite on the contrary, stress reduces your productivity enormously and decreases your ability to concentrate and focus, which ultimately makes your brain work even slower than before.

Personally, after years of trying to work with to-do lists, even looking at one triggers my anxiety. They always demotivate me instantly!

Why weekly could-do lists are the way to go for introverts and HSP

As someone who tends to forget a lot of things if I don’t write it down somewhere, I understand why people need lists to be productive and get their work done correctly. I do, too, otherwise, this blog post wouldn’t even be happening right now!

I’m the type of person who really needs a certain guideline to make sure I am my most productive self. But as daily to-do lists really don’t work for me, I decided to instead work with weekly “tasks that I could do”-lists.

Yes, you heard it right – “Could do” and not “to do”-lists!

I love working with weekly “could do” lists. They give me space where I write down E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G that has to be done by the end of the week (or until a specific date) and provide me with a simple overview of all tasks for the week.

Having this simple overview of things that I could do throughout the whole week motivates me to structure my day in a way that makes me the most productive – without overwhelming myself with loads of tasks and allowing time to rest.

For me, this approach lifts off all the pressure of my shoulders and, compared to using daily to-do lists, always makes me perform my absolute best. Honestly, it actually makes fun to work with these types of lists as they allow me to just go with the flow and intuitively do what feels right on that specific day and in every moment!

Want to try out this method yourself and see if it works for you?

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.