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3 Signs you might not be a real introvert – maybe you’re an extrovert or ambivert?🤷‍♀️

As an introvert, I know what it feels like to be one.

I was born an introvert, and I will most certainly die an introvert as well. It’s nothing that changes over time or that I can influence to change. So, you could say, at this point, I’m quite sure that there is no way I will ever experience what it feels like not to be an introvert. (Scary thought that there are people who don’t know what it feels like, huh?)

As an introvert, I’m quite sure I know how most introverts feel like deep inside. I know from my own experience where particular behavior comes from, and I think I can kind of predict it as well, thanks to my knowledge in psychology. I don’t believe that people don’t have a free will – even an introvert can behave totally differently to their personality if they want to. Still, I think that most of us have specific behaviorism in common, making it easy to tell us from extroverts apart.

Have you been mistyping yourself for an introvert?

So in this blog post, I want to share a couple of facts to help you figure out if you have been mistyping yourself or are indeed an introvert. Trust me, this can happen quite easily, considering introversion-extroversion being a spectrum and all the misconceptions about introverts in our society!

Here are the 3 signs you might have mistyped yourself for being introverted:

1. You love talking to people and meeting up with them!

Starting off with an obvious one! As an introvert, this couldn’t be more not true for me. It’s not that I hate people or hate talking to them, but I honestly could go days without talking to or seeing anyone and wouldn’t be bothered by it in the slightest. For extroverts, this sounds probably more like a nightmare! The only ones that could possibly manage it, while still being a bit sad about it at some point are ambiverts, in my opinion.

I noticed, that especially during quarantine, extroverts have had the biggest struggles. I saw them crying online and going into quarantine with friends, because they couldn’t bear the lack of human contact. Some were even falling into depression because of it. If that is or was something you struggled with during quarantine, I hate to break it to you, but you’re most definitely not an introvert.

2. You find solutions to problems by talking about them with others!

For introverts, it’s quite natural that we think before we speak. (That’s why most of us, if not all, are huge overthinkers!) This also goes for when we are facing problems and need to find solutions for it. I can tell you, before an introvert decides to ask anyone for help or talk to anyone about it in some way or another, we will first try to figure it out ourselves. This includes thinking about specific outcomes, sketching out different ways of approaching the problem, and creating multiple scenarios to see where it could lead us.

Extroverts tend to approach problems in quite the opposite way! They usually have to talk to someone about the issue they are facing. They develop their solution to a problem by talking with someone about it and all the various scenarios and as well as ways of approaching it. While introverts think before they speak, extroverts think while and after talking. You’re most likely not an introvert if you can resonate more with the extrovert’s way than the introvert’s way of solution-finding.

3. You have a huge friend group and are always in touch with everyone!

Lastly, I also want to mention that introverts are usually pretty private people. We don’t have large friend groups or tons of close friends. I personally prefer to have a small circle of friends with a maximum of 5 people, which is a really high number for an introvert if you ask me. I literally don’t have the capacity nor the energy to be friends with more people than that. And even now, with having 5 friends, it’s really hard for me to take care of each of these friendships properly. I really like each person, but I often just don’t have the energy to meet and spend time with each of them.

As I said earlier, I don’t hate people, and I’m also not afraid of them (most of the time at least), but as an introvert, I really don’t need as much social contact as extroverts or even ambiverts would to be happy. This also goes for chatting over text messages, calling each other over the phone and all the other things. I check my text messages probably once a day and I think that’s completely enough for me.

Honestly, I’m that much of a private person that it happens quite regularly that I just forget that other people, including my friends, still exist. Isn’t that crazy? 😀

There’s more to consider when typing yourself!

Of course, there many more things to consider when trying to type yourself, either being more introverted or extroverted. It’s a spectrum, and ambiverts prove that some people really are just somewhere right in the middle. There are many tests online that you can do to figure out where you lean more towards to and doing a little research always helps.

As an introvert, I always have kind of known, even if I didn’t know the term for describing it. But if you find yourself questioning if you actually fit into the “I’m an introvert” category, chances are that you’re actually not that much of an introvert.

How introverted would you say are you on a scale from 0 (not at all) to 10 (very introverted)?

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

Welcome fall! 🌻 Why I love fall & how I make the most of it as an introverted homebody

It’s September, dear introverts – my most favorite season of the year is back!

And of course, I’m celebrating the arrival of this beautiful season by drinking freshly made herbal tea, wearing fuzzy socks, and binge-watching my favorite Halloween themed tv show episodes. Have I already mentioned how much I actually love fall? 😉

As an introvert, fall is my most favorite season for two reasons:

I don’t have to feel guilty for staying inside

Firstly, people finally stop making us introverts feel bad for preferring to spend our time inside at home rather than outside in public places. The weather is getting colder every day, and pretty much no one actually enjoys cold temperatures. Therefore, wanting to stay inside all day long rather than walking around outside in the cold, especially while it rains, is socially acceptable. Love that!

People start to focus more on solo activities

And secondly, the people will start to rediscover the joy of indulging in solo activities like reading books, watching TV shows or movies, and playing video games 24/7 around this time of the year, which really takes away a lot of the pressure that society puts on people like us! It seems like people respect it more and don’t judge you for not wanting to socialize.

I feel a strong connection to the Fall season

Lastly, I love fall because September is my birth month, and I naturally feel very drawn to the Fall season.I’m also a sucker for all the Halloween related spooky things.👻 I also just love the overall color theme of this beautiful season. Earthy tones are my most favorite colors!

Here are some of my most favorite activities to make most of this Fall season:

How I make the most of the Fall season as an introvert

Even though Fall is really the most perfect season for introverts, I have also experienced very dull days and even weeks as an introvert during Fall. The key to making the most of the Fall season as an introvert? Balance & variation!

Get outside whenever the sun shines!

Going for walks during fall is by far one of the most beautiful things. I personally love seeing the brown leaves falling from the branches of the trees while watching the sun softly shine through them and creating this beautiful, unique atmosphere that just makes my heart happy.

The physical movement is the icing on the cake for me. It really helps me to maintain a happy mental state, and for someone who is naturally rather lazy, it is definitely great for my physical health to get outside on a walk as well. Under the compromise to only (or mostly) go for walks when the sun shines makes it less overwhelming for me. (And if you feel like it, you can still go outside on misty or rainy days as well. Personally, seeing the sun shine motivates me a lot more than rain.)

Get crafty or creative – or both!

For me, Fall is the perfect time to pick up old hobbies, get more skilled at current ones, and just to try out new things in general. The whole Fall vibe really gets me into this really wonderful creative headspace, and that’s why it makes even more fun for me to really create and try out new things around this time.

Need some ideas? I always collect and dry leaves from trees during Fall. 🍁 Often I will collect them when I’m on one of my walks that I just mentioned and decorate my room and my windows with them when they are dried.

Another thing I really want to do this Fall is getting better at drawing. I’m really into creating digital content and I would love to get started with creating digital art as well. I already did my first couple of tries around last Fall in 2019, but I want to get better at it. (I might be showing you my progress on my Instagram Stories and on my Patreon Page at some point!)

Is there something you can think of that you want to start doing during this Fall?

Why not bake something and try out new recipes!

I’m a huge fan of baking, and I do have my favorite recipes. But I also like to try new ones and be a little creative while putting them to the test. Last Fall, this is exactly how I discovered my iconic homemade cinnamon rolls recipe! >> Click here to check it out: Cinnamon rolls á la The German Introvert<<. I don’t have any baking-related goals for this Fall season, but I’ll definitely try to re-create a couple of chocolate cookie recipes! Are you in? Of course, I’ll be sharing with you my most favorite ones!

Go on a self-discovery journey with yourself

If you follow me on my Instagram Stories, you know that I’m a huge fan of journaling. I love it so much, and it has been so beneficial to me in many ways! >>Click here to learn how to get started with intuitive journaling.<< It had helped go through many downs and negative feelings in the past and has been my outlet (positive and negative) whenever I needed it. But it also has been a place for growth, development, and reflection as well!

What I really love about journaling is that I can always grab it and just browse through the pages. Reading about past feelings and experiences allows me to gain new perspectives on things, reflect on my past behavior, and make better choices in the future. Fall seems to be the perfect season to go on a little self-discovery journey, don’t you think? Journaling for sure is one of the best ways to do that.

You don’t know how to start your journaling practice and need some guidance? I offer monthly journal prompts on my Patreon. Click here to check out my Patreon Page!

Was I able to inspire you to make the most of this year’s Fall season?

I wish you a wonderful fall!🌻

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media and my patreon community. I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and support you on your way of growth!

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The life of an introvert: An interview with Mike; Photographer & Marketing Manager #CommunityMonth

Yay – welcome to the last interview of this very special introvert community month!

This month, I’m going to introduce you to four wonderful introverts from all around the world who will share with you their stories and life experiences as introverts. This interview is the third interview of this whole series. If you missed the first two, please check out the Interview with Tasmin Lowe, the Interview with Franziska Marx and the Interview with Maria afterward!

Let’s meet today’s guest: Mike!

Question: “Want to introduce yourself?”

Answer: My name is Mike, I’m 35 years old and my hobbies are photography, reading, graphic designing and cycling. I work as a Marketing Manager. My aspirations are being a writer, photographer, diplomat and humanist.

Q: “Have you always known you were an introvert?”

A: In 2018, I came to know I was an introvert after taking an MBTI test. Later, that was validated by natal chart and introspection of events from the past that led me to believe that I was introverted. It was interesting yet surreal. Today, it makes me accept my core and act accordingly whereas all these years I wasn’t and that was because I was ignorant in some ways and faking in many ways in order to be validated and accepted by people or the world at large.

Q: “Has being an introvert influenced your childhood?”

A: I was always shy and scared to open up. But when I did open up, I could have conversations. But in conversations, after a point of time, I would end up speaking more thus making the others around me uncomfortable and irritated.

I was humiliated and bullied for many reasons including being dumb and stupid in front of them. People would take the mick out of me for being very naïve and weird. Matter of fact I still do get mocked. Since I am also a highly sensitive person, I come across as gay or even very feminised.

Q: “How does your daily life look like as an introvert?”

A: Since I am an INFP (MBTI), I feel more, romanticize more, idealise more, infatuate more, and be very impulsive. I have come across as very attractive so women have liked me in the instant but not after a few minutes. Even in past relationships, women have taken undue advantage of me being nice. In one way, I forgive them for their actions. In another, I do not as they have played with my emotions.

Q: “With what kind of situation do you struggle with the most?”

A: As an introverted HSP, I was also attracted to toxic people in professional and personal life and that has been a huge challenge and struggle for me. I go out of my way to help people. Sometimes I have expected something in return and sometimes not. Expecting love, kidness, and affection has been the only things I have always wanted because I do not have interest in materialistic things.

Q: “What advice would you give your younger self for situations that were uncomfortable?”

A: I’d tell my young introverted self that the world is an oyster and you have plenty of options to choose from be it work, food, relationships, etc but sooner or later you will and you should know about yourself. You may hit rock bottom or get depressed but that would help you know yourself. Then, be thankful to everyone and everything that led you up to that point. You will meet people who’d like you and dislike you, lie to you and be honest with you, break your heart or help you recover, and these could be your family, friends, acquaintances, and strangers. But, they are all teaching you something. Focus on the lessons, learn, unlearn, and relearn. Get to know your core. Stay with the core because that will help you and guide you

Q: “What would you advise fellow introverts to do to help them make the most of their lives?”

From my experience, I’d highly recommend the following tips: Meditate, take walks, sleep for 7-8 hours, switch off mobile an hour before sleep, switch on mobile after 30 minutes upon waking up. Drink plenty of tea and get a natal chart reading to get to know yourself a bit more. Set and maintain boundaries.

Thank you so much Mike for letting us into your experiences and life as an introvert!

Do you want to reach out to Mike? Check out her Instagram @thesensitiveinfp and make sure to follow her account to get insights into her life and experiences as an introvert and Slow Life Advocate!

This was the last interview of this months community month. Make sure you subcribed to my blog so won’t be missing out on the next round in November!

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

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The life of an introvert: An interview with Maria; Student & Slow Life Advocate – #CommunityMonth

Yay – welcome to the third interview of this very special introvert community month!

This month, I’m going to introduce you to four wonderful introverts from all around the world who will share with you their stories and life experiences as introverts. This interview is the third interview of this whole series. If you missed the first two, please check out the Interview with Tasmin Lowe and the Interview with Franziska Marx aftward!

Let’s meet today’s guest: Maria!

Instagram: @theportuguesemary

Question: “Want to introduce yourself?”

Answer: My name is Maria, I’m 18 years old, and I’ll soon be studying psychology at University. I’ve also been studying music alongside the regular school for eight years now. I live in Portugal. I love sewing – mostly historical fashion and embroidery-, I also love photography, cooking, and reading/ studying. I am also an advocate for a slower and simpler way of living and a fellow introvert!

Q: “Have you always known you were an introvert?”

A: No, I actually haven’t. For the most part of my life I have not identified myself as an introvert, although I do think it is due to my lack of knowledge regarding the terminology. In retrospect, I’ve always felt like I was a bit different to other girls. I was more reserved, not good at talking with people (in social contexts), and not such a great friendship maker – but because I’ve always needed and loved to be alone and to read, that was, if I recall well, out of my mind for the majority of the time. Only later, as an adult, I started to understand that this was not the norm. I actually only came across the term “introvert” much later – maybe four years ago – and I understood I could really relate to this term. Despite that, it still took me quite some time to do my research and understand that being an introvert can look very different. It comes in several “shapes and forms,” and it’s not a one size fits all kind of thing/designation. This was important for me because although I’m a nervous and sometimes awkward talker – mostly when regarding socializing with people – I do love to discuss specific topics in public and sometimes perform concerts and recitals. That being said, and although it brings me joy, I always find myself much more tired than most of my more extroverted colleagues and prefer to be at home and by myself.

Q: “Has being an introvert influenced your childhood?”

A: Yes, completely. I’ve always loved to be by myself, to read and study a lot throughout my childhood and as a young adult, and I recall never enjoying being with other people for long periods of time or with lots of people in general. Bullying was, unfortunately, a thing, and it has been until now, although I deal with it much better now, and I understand much better why people act this way. I also had problems with sharing personal things, thoughts, and feelings most of the time – mostly because I was a really private child. In truth, it was just a lot later that I learned how to create and nurture some more meaningful deep connections with friends when I grew older.

Q: “How does your daily life look like as an introvert?”

A: With time, I started to understand that I am happier and calmer when I’m less stressed, and that a simple life, the simple things, and simple habits are the ones that help me the most fulfill my heart. My daily life is often a mixture of routines that I know help me feel good — a schedule that helps me organize my day. Although I like to plan things and know that this helps me a lot with anxiety, I do make space for any changes when I need it. Resting for me is really important – as I can only be productive when well-rested – so I try to make sure I sleep well and sufficiently. I also understood with the time that when I start my day slowly and gently, everything else becomes easier, and my day runs a lot smoother; being around people can also be more manageable and less tiresome for me.

Q: “With what kind of situation do you struggle with the most?”

A: Mostly, being in new environments and when around lots of people. But being tired after school or after being outside of the house is also something that I struggle a lot with. When I started to learn playing the flute, I was also starting to struggle with stressful situations. Mostly situations that were connected to competitions that were putting me under pressure. As a highly sensitive person (HSP), it can also be hard to make new friendships as spending time with people can be stressful and tiresome sometimes. 

Q: “Have there been past experiences that helped you grow as an introvert?”

A: Having public performances on stage being part of my life for the past eight years actually made me learn a lot about several ways to calm yourself down, control your nervousness, and be confident. It taught me what actually works for me and what doesn’t! Also having theatre lessons. I was kind of terrible at it – mostly because of my nervousness, awkwardness, and shyness – but finding a loving community that supported my growth was great, and I taught me so much! Searching for new ways of expressing myself and my introverted heart has also been very beneficial.

Q: “With what kind of situations do you no longer struggle with?

A: I think I do still struggle with many things relating to confidence, nervousness, shyness, awkwardness, etc. Recently, I learned some new ways and strategies to help me deal with all that! I try to identify where my insecure feelings come from, which helps me whenever I come home and need to calm myself down. For me, the most effective change in my life and routine has been to switch to a simpler lifestyle – maybe this is not the answer for everyone! Putting myself out of my comfort zone has always – although being hard sometimes – been a blessing for me as well and helped me grow and understand myself better.

Q: “What advice would you give your younger self for situations that were uncomfortable?”

A: I would advise her not to ignore her feelings and feel all that she is experiencing. I would also tell her that everything is going to be fine and that the re-occurring tiredness she feels is normal and has a reason. Another thing I would tell her is that there’s nothing wrong with being and acting differently to others – even if people say so. It will turn out to be a blessing in the future!
Breathe in and breathe out. Don’t do things because you feel obligated to and focus on doing what you feel in your heart is the better and right choice for you.
It is better to have one true friend that ten you don’t feel comfortable with. Society is not always right, and you have the right to slow down and to live at your own pace and rhythm.

Q: “What do you wish for the future of our society regarding introverts?”

I would love to see more understanding surrounding us introverts, and it to be seen as an actual human personality trait and not a condition that needs treatment. I would love people to be more educated on this topic so that introverts and extroverts, as well as parents, are aware of it. I want people to know that it is a beautiful thing to be sensitive and awkward and different and that our inside world is just as important as their outside world.

Thank you so much Maria for letting us into your experiences and life as an introvert!

Do you want to reach out to Maria? Check out her Instagram @theportuguesemary and make sure to follow her account to get insights into her life and experiences as an introvert and Slow Life Advocate!

The next and last interview will be coming next weekend. Make sure you subcribed to my blog so you’ll be notified as soon as it’s up!

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

The life of an introvert: An interview with Franziska Marx; Social Educator and Creative Mind – #CommunityMonth

Yay – welcome to the second interview of this very special introvert community month!


This month, I’m going to introduce you to four wonderful introverts from all around the world who will share with you their stories and life experiences as introverts. This interview is the second interview of this whole series. If you missed the first one, please check out the Interview with Tasmin Lowe from last week!

Let’s meet today’s guest: Franziska Marx!

Instagram: @franzisabenteuer

Question: “Want to introduce yourself?”

Answer: My name is Franzi, I am 26 years old, and I live with my fiancé in Münster, Germany. In my free time, I enjoy working on creative things such as writing, watercolor art, or lettering. I also just recently rediscovered embroidery for myself, which I also have been practicing again since then.

My short-term goal is to continue giving myself the time I need to get used to new situations. My long term dream and aspiration is to achieve small milestones in the creative industry, of course aside from my job as a social educator!

Q: “Have you always known you were an introvert?”

A: I actually didn’t know that for a very long time. If someone had asked me in the past whether or not I would describe myself as an introvert or extrovert, I would have shrugged with my shoulders. I only became aware of this during the past three years, probably at some point during my studies, because I had to move to Heidelberg for it. When I moved, everything was completely new to me and I saw the chance to reinvent myself. And while I did that, I also began to question myself and my (past) actions at the same time. I started to reflect on many things. One thing was for example, that I always have had the tendency to focus more on my inner world. During my time at school, I never really had the chance to get to know this part of myself as I focused more on pleasing those around me and fitting into their picture.

Q: “Has being an introvert influenced your childhood?”

A: In retrospect, I can tell that I have always felt more comfortable in familiar environments. Whenever I found myself in new situations, I always have had a strong need for security. I also always needed some extra time to get used to the new surroundings until I was able to really flourish and with that show the funny and open-minded side of myself.

One example I remember is my first day of primary school. It was a very exciting day for everyone, but as it was a new situation to me, I had this strong need to have someone with me that would help me feel safe and secure. Luckily, my friend from kindergarten was allowed to sit right next to me! I probably wouldn’t have had said a single word, if that wouldn’t have been possible on this day.


Q: “How does your daily life look like as an introvert?”

A: I don’t really enjoy being the center of attention nor talking about private matters with strangers or people I barely know. I have always been more the listener, which I’m really good at if I say so myself, and feel the most comfortable in small groups. I noticed that I also tend to swap between different roles in my daily life. Whenever I’m at work, I tend to mostly show my professional side, while at home or with my inner circle, I can be who I really am.

Q: “With what kind of situation do you struggle with the most?”

A: I have a hard time making myself be part of the conversation whenever I’m in a group setting with unfamiliar people. I tend to remain quiet for the most part of it. Often times, I notice how I really don’t know how to make myself be more open and active in these situations. My shyness definitely plays a huge role, as it makes me be really cautious with everything that I want to do or say.

Q: “Have there been past experiences that helped you grow as an introvert?”

A: Yes! What has really helped me a lot in the past is knowing that I am not alone with the things I experience or struggle with as an introvert! Talking with other fellow introverts about these things and doing my own research has been very beneficial to me. As people say, knowledge is power. Generally, I think it’s also very helpful to regularly write down all the things you think or worry about. For me personally, this gives me access to my inner world and helps me to bring back the peace to myself.

Q: “With what kind of situations do you no longer struggle with?

A: I no longer struggle with acknowledging my own needs and taking care of them and myself the way I should. I also found my way of living a life that gives myself the space I need to be who I am without having to bend or change myself in any way.


Q: “What advice would you give your younger self for situations that were uncomfortable?”

A: If you don’t want to go to a party – then you don’t go! And just because you think you’re different from others doesn’t mean that you can’t be part of the group. Also, you’re not less worthy or valuable just because you’re not like everyone else!

Q: “What do you wish for the future of our society regarding introverts?”

A: I would wish that quiet people get to say something in our society. And that quiet introverts can become just as successful as loud extroverts without getting talked down by others. I wish that we are allowed to be who we are and get appreciated for it.

Thank you so much Franziska for letting us in into your experiences and life as an introvert!

Do you want to reach out to Franziska? Check out her Instagram @franzisabenteuer and make sure to follow her account to get daily insights into her life and experiences as an introvert!

The next interview will be coming soon. Make sure you subcribed to my blog so you’ll be notified as soon as it’s up!

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

The life of an introvert: An interview with Tasmin Lowe; freelancer and author – #CommunityMonth

Yay – it’s Community month!


This month, I’m going to introduce you to four wonderful introverts (from all around the world) who are going to share with you their stories and life experiences to shed light on the difficulties introverts face in our society and in their everyday life. But this series is going to be about more than just bringing awareness to the struggles introverts face on the daily!

It’s also about showing you the differences and similarities between us wonderful introverted human beings and help you see yourself from a new and much more positive perspective by looking through the eyes of other introvert from all different places.

I hope you find this series interesting and helpful. I’m so excited about this!

Let’s meet today’s guest: Tasmin Lowe!

Instagram: @thelowe.lywriter

Question: “Want to introduce yourself?”

Answer: My name is Tasmin Lowe, I am 26 years old and I live in South Africa with my husband and our dog Koda. I am a Freelance writer and editor and I’m currently writing my first book, Think With Me (coincidentally about being an introvert!). Writing has always been a passion of mine and is probably something I will continue to pursue.

Q: “Have you always known you were an introvert?”

A: For as long as I have known what an introvert is, I have known it was who I am. I’ve always been shy, uncomfortable at large friend or family gatherings, and have always lived inside of my mind and imagination. Overthinking and creating realistic (and unrealistic) scenarios in my mind throughout each day comes all to naturally to me.

Q: “Has being an introvert influenced your childhood?”

A: In primary school I made one friend in grade one and she became my best friend through to grade seven. But we only became friends because she came up to me one day during breaktime and said I looked alone and sad (her words). I never made friends easily because I preferred to sit quietly on my own and be out of peoples’ way – something that is still a bit true to this day. Luckily, being an introvert, I never needed a lot of friends and held on dearly to the few best friends I did (and do) have.

I was always focused on myself – never played team sports or did extracurricular activities at school. I did gymnastics, competed as an individual and I was more than content with that. Being an introverted child also kept me from speaking up when I felt uncomfortable, which made it difficult for me to speak up in future. I would rather keep quiet and to myself then say something to cause a scene or be the reason someone got into trouble (unless it was my sister – but our sibling rivalry was healthy and is now over).  


Q: “How does your daily life look like as an introvert?”

A: Working from home means my daily schedule is flexible. Most of my days consist of me finding things to do around the house in-between working on my book or odd jobs. 

When I got married, we moved to the small town where my husband grew up and where his parents still stay. It’s quite a distance away from my home community and friends where I used to live. But we usually see his parents every other day to share a meal or I will go for walks with his sister and mother.

While I am happy to be in the house for a few days, I do enjoy getting outside and am so grateful to have family to walk and visit town with. It makes it a more comfortable experience for me in a town that I’m still not entirely familiar with.

Q: “With what kind of situation do you struggle with the most?”

A: I struggle with new experiences the most. Like moving to a small town, for example, where I don’t know anyone except my family-in-law. Having to find a new doctor, dentist, beautician, job, coffee place and grocery store are all stressful to me. I’ve been living here for almost two years now and I still feel anxious to go the shops or make an appointment at the hairdresser. Next year we will be moving overseas to Qatar and I know that in itself will bring its own stresses and struggles but I try not to think about it too much just yet.

Q: “Have there been past experiences that helped you grow as an introvert?”

A: Moving away from home and friends has been good for me as much as it has, at times, been uncomfortable. Having worked in four different jobs with different work environments has also taught me many things and helped me grow. I met so many different types of people and discovered which social situations were easier for me to handle.

Also, I believe that every past experience I have had has helped me grow in the sense that if there is something I have to do that I’ve done before, I focus on how I managed it last time and it makes me less anxious because I know that I am (because I was) capable.

Q: “With what kind of situations do you no longer struggle with? Do you have tips for others?”

A: I’m not as nervous to meet new people. Over the years it’s something you naturally do more of and it becomes slightly easier each time. I do owe most of this to my husband who is the extrovert of the two of us. He makes me feel more comfortable within myself, which makes me less anxious. In fact, since we have moved here, every time I had to go out or do something in town for the first time, he would come with me to help me realize that it’s not as bad as I build it up in my mind to be, and it’s a manageable experience.

My advice then to those who still struggle with certain situations should rely on the people who are there for them. Share your fears and anxieties – they love and accept you, so there’s no reason to feel embarrassed – after all, everyone needs a little help every now and then. And it’s okay to not feel like you can do things on your own, but you need to realize that, in most cases, you aren’t alone.


Q: “What advice would you give your younger self for situations that were uncomfortable?”

A: Elaborate beyond “I don’t want to”, “I don’t feel like” or, my favorite, “I don’t know”. If a loved one is trying to reach out to help you or understand you better, let them. It will help you as well as your relationship with that person. It’s not always necessary to shut people out because you doubt they will understand your reasoning or will think you’re “just being silly”. Anxiety is real. Mental health issues are real. And it’s something people are finally starting to respect – so why wouldn’t they respect you and the traits that come with being an introvert?

Q: “What do you wish for the future of our society regarding introverts?”

A: I wish people would stop labeling introversion as something negative or something that is mostly negative. I don’t hear society going around making extroverts feel bad about themselves so why should we, as introverts, be made to feel bad about who we are? I think we are widely misunderstood with many misconceptions around what it means to be an introvert. With that said, I also wish that society would take a moment to understand us better and that introverts would find a way to express themselves in order to be understood (in whichever way makes them comfortable).

Thank you so much Tasmin for letting us in into your experiences and life as an introvert!

Do you want to reach out to Tasmin? Check out her Instagram @thelowe.lywriter or write her an email to thelowe.lywriter@gmail.com. She’ll be more than happy to welcome you to her Instagram page and answering your messages!

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How to make to-do lists work for you as an introvert & HSP

One of the things that are highly prioritized in our society is” productivity“. No matter if at home or work, getting the most done in the shortest time is the goal for many in most cases. It’s all about ticking the most off your to-do lists: to satisfy your boss, to give yourself the validation of being a hard-working and successful part of society, and to earn yourself your well deserved time off afterward.

In a society that is extrovert-oriented and very achievement-focused, people who can’t finish their to-do lists very quickly are often seen as “lazy” and “unsuccessful” people. Lazy people who aren’t dedicated and willing enough to work hard every day will never be successful because they need too much time to finish their tasks.

Those who can’t keep up with the pace of everyone else are looked down on, and are often being called out for not giving 110% — all day and every day.” Time is money”.

Why daily to-do lists usually don’t work for highly-sensitive introverts

As an introvert and HSP, I know that I tire quicker than others… Not only whenever I’m in a social situation, but also in my normal daily life where outside stimulation of all sorts make my energy level drop very quickly.

For a highly sensitive introvert, this is a natural process for me, but it’s also the main reason why daily to-do lists are usually very difficult for me to work with.

Compared to others, I need many more moments of rest between tasks to achieve maximum productivity. And I’m not talking about the obligatory 5 to 10 minutes of quick pause. I’m talking about rest up to an hour in-between.

They help me prevent my energy level from dropping faster and faster and even allow me to regain a bit of energy before tackling the next to-do on my list. But as daily to-do lists are meant to be finished off in one day, I can’t allow myself the rest in-between, which makes it very hard for me to finish every task and achieve perfect results at the same time.

The psychology behind daily to-do lists…

Daily to-do lists have this weird psychological effect that makes you want to check off everything of this list very quickly only to reduce the pressure that the mass of to-do’s puts on you. This pressure triggers the hormone cortisol in your body and makes it flood your system to make you work as fast as possible.

Every single time. This isn’t really healthy considering that the amount of stress hormones that are being produced at this moment have very negative effects on your health and don’t contribute to making you work better.

Quite on the contrary, stress reduces your productivity enormously and decreases your ability to concentrate and focus, which ultimately makes your brain work even slower than before.

Personally, after years of trying to work with to-do lists, even looking at one triggers my anxiety. They always demotivate me instantly!

Why weekly could-do lists are the way to go for introverts and HSP

As someone who tends to forget a lot of things if I don’t write it down somewhere, I understand why people need lists to be productive and get their work done correctly. I do, too, otherwise, this blog post wouldn’t even be happening right now!

I’m the type of person who really needs a certain guideline to make sure I am my most productive self. But as daily to-do lists really don’t work for me, I decided to instead work with weekly “tasks that I could do”-lists.

Yes, you heard it right – “Could do” and not “to do”-lists!

I love working with weekly “could do” lists. They give me space where I write down E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G that has to be done by the end of the week (or until a specific date) and provide me with a simple overview of all tasks for the week.

Having this simple overview of things that I could do throughout the whole week motivates me to structure my day in a way that makes me the most productive – without overwhelming myself with loads of tasks and allowing time to rest.

For me, this approach lifts off all the pressure of my shoulders and, compared to using daily to-do lists, always makes me perform my absolute best. Honestly, it actually makes fun to work with these types of lists as they allow me to just go with the flow and intuitively do what feels right on that specific day and in every moment!

Want to try out this method yourself and see if it works for you?

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These things changed since I started to accept my introverted self

Accepting yourself for who you are – fully and to 100% – isn’t easy. It really doesn’t matter what type of personality you are, I think this is something we all struggle with. But growing up as an introvert in an environment that doesn’t want to support you for the quiet and withdrawn introverted person that you are, and instead puts all their efforts into making you change something about yourself that you can’t – is a whole different level of challenge.

I think you can imagine that growing up like that wasn’t easy for me. Luckily, my family was, for the most part, very supportive, but my experience at school was different. There were actually were all my problems with being an introvert basically started.

It was not until I turned 19 when things slowly changed for the better. All beginning with finally starting to accept myself for who I was through learning more and more about the introverted personality that I am.

These things changed when I started to accept myself for the introvert that I am…

Let me break it down to give you an insight into what you can expect to happen, whenever you decide to start walking on your path to more self-acceptance as an introvert.

I stopped guilt-tripping myself for not wanting to go out to meet other people when I clearly didn’t felt like it.

This was actually an important thing for me, because up until I finally decided that this was completely wrong of me to do to myself, I always forced myself to go out and meet people whenever someone invited me. Growing up with zero friends, I thought this was the only right thing to do. Especially as I really wanted people to like me. So, saying “no” to an invitation like that felt like I was self-sabotaging myself. Now I know better. Those who lose their interest in being your friends because you said “no” were never meant to be your friend in the first place.

I instantly started to feel more comfortable and confident in my skin every day.

Yes, this is something I’m so incredibly happy about because growing up as a shy introvert, I had immense struggles with confidence. I’m still somewhat self-conscious to this day, but it’s not nearly as bad as it was when I was a teenager. And I think that this is all thanks to knowing who I am today and learning more and more about my introverted personality every day.

I stopped trying to fit in other people’s expectations of me.

As the introvert that I am, I know very well how different I am compared to the rest of society. Add being highly sensitive to the list, and here you have someone who is basically not made to be part of the fast-paced, extroverted society dominating the world. And knowing my truth and who really I am has immensely lowered the pressure that I put on myself daily to fit into other people’s expectations of how my life should look like. And I’m so grateful for that because now I feel free to decide how my life should look without thinking about what others might think or would do differently.

And lastly, I’m happy.

I’m genuinely glad to be me, the highly sensitive introvert who loves to spend time alone, hide in her room to read or play video games all day, and not be seen for days until she feels ready to go outside to interact with people again. And that’s perfectly fine. I do what feels right to me, and I’m never again ignoring my needs and desires only so other people like me or accept me.

My journey to more self-acceptance as an introvert…

I know that my journey of self-acceptance and self-love isn’t finished yet, and I’m quite sure that I still have a long way to go, but I’m proud of every step that I already took to be where I am at now. And I hope that one day, you also will be able to accept yourself for the introvert you are – fully and unconditionally! I know, it’s often not as easy as we wish and want it to be, but it’s worth every bit of struggle you might be facing along the way.

Your worth isn’t defined by what other people think or say about you. You’re worthy. You’re enough. Don’t let other people tell you otherwise.

Do you want to know if you will become more introverted the older you get? >> Check out my blog post “Do we become more introverted or extroverted with age?” to see if you’re right!

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

Melatonin: A lifesaver for introverts with sleeping problems?

Ever had a night where you could barely fall asleep? Where you spent hours trying to calm your body down while watching your thoughts going back and forth on a topic you thought you’d had already forgotten about? If you answered this with a loud yes, please keep on reading, because I might have found the perfect solution to your sleeping problem!

But first, let me tell you a bit about my past experiences with sleep…

Like pretty much everyone in my family, I’ve always struggled with falling asleep. This started already when I was just beginning to go to school and hasn’t changed ever since. I’m 22 now and still can’t manage to fall asleep like the average person and struggle with it a lot to this very day.

My struggles during the nights as an introvert

I’m one of those people who suffer from a very active brain during the nights. While my body is already done for the day, and my eyes are getting more tired every hour, my brain isn’t nearly finished yet. And when the clock strikes midnight, my brain is just getting ready for its intense mode leaving my sleepless hours on end.

When this happens, like most of the time, I try my best to keep myself busy as best as possible. I really want to avoid being trapped in another overthinking cycle, as it sometimes can lead to a full-blown panic attack, so I try to get my mind off of anything that could trigger that. Therefore I’ll be scrolling through my phone and hopping from one social media platform to another until my body is so tired that it forces me to fall asleep without wasting a single thought on sensitive topics.

This isn’t really one of the healthiest ways of falling asleep. In fact, going to sleep like that has undeniable negative effects on your general sleep quality, which will highly impact your overall performance in your day-to-day life. You can imagine that I was very interested in improving this as someone who knows how much your physical health can affect your mental health as well! Also, as I already tire super quickly during a typical day, thanks to being a highly-sensitive introvert, I would really appreciate the extra bit of energy from having a better sleeping quality.

And finally, I learned about a magical thing called “melantonin” that was supposed to help me fix my destroyed sleeping cycle.

What is Melatonin and how does it work?

Melatonin is a hormone that your body produces to regulate your normal sleep and awake cycles. It’s naturally produced by your body whenever you are exposed to darkness, which signals the body to prepare for sleep. Exposer to light decreases the melatonin production as it signals the body to stay awake or wake up. Melatonin makes you sleepy and a little bit dizzy, so you have it easy to fall asleep at night.

Some people don’t produce enough melatonin. This can have many reasons, such as a delayed sleep phase, jet lag, shift work, or disabilities, which are making it hard for the body to produce the right amount of melatonin at the right time. A healthy body most likely produces enough melatonin for its general needs. However, even a “healthy body” can struggle with it at times!

Why should I supplement melatonin?

Those of you who struggle with an over-active brain like me during the nights, causing insomnia and making it hard for you to fully function in your normal day-to-day life due to lack of sleep, can really benefit from supplementing melatonin.

It allows you to take back the power over your sleeping cycle by giving your body what it struggles to produce naturally through synthetic pills or chewables, which will significantly increases your sleep quality. The higher amount of melatonin in your body will make it easier for it to understand that it’s bedtime and will ultimately make it easier for you to fall asleep. The better your sleep is, the more energy you have during a day! Which is a blessing for an introvert who already struggles a lot with lack of energy during the day.

In my opinion, this isn’t something you would want to supplement on a long-term basis. But I think that this is a great thing to use as a short-term treatment to fix current sleeping issues that are making your life unnecessarily hard right now.

My experience with melatonin as an introvert with short-term insomnia

As an introvert who struggles a lot with short-term insomnia from time to time, supplementing melatonin has really been very beneficial to my overall health and well-being. Especially at times when stress is taking over and making it extraordinarily hard to fall asleep at night, melatonin has been a great help to me! I try to only use it when it feels necessary to me – but as it’s something your body produces naturally, I don’t mind taking it for a couple consecutive days to fix my issue at that present moment.

My recommendation:

Personally, I can highly recommend chewables, as it goes very quickly directly into your bloodstream. Any brand goes, as long as they offer high-quality synthetic melatonin. Often you can find very affordable high-quality melatonin in drugstores. But don’t hesitate to go to your local pharmacy to get it, even if it’s a little more on the pricier side! Quality matters. 🙂

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

Do we become more introverted or extroverted with age?

“Do we become more introverted or extroverted with age?” – This question is one of the most interesting ones for an introvert like me who is very interested in human psychology and personality development, and also loves to have deep discussions! Many introverts are interested in these types of topics for various reasons, which is also why I want to share with you my experiences and thoughts about this specific topic today!

My experience: Has my introversion changed over the years?

At first, this seemed like a tough question to answer, especially since I just started with my health psychology study and try my best to adjust my lifestyle to my personality. But the more I began to think about it, the clearer I saw my viewpoint on this.

Before I tell you exactly what my opinion about this whole topic is, let me tell you a bit about my own experiences!

When I was a young kid, I always knew that I was different compared to other kids my age:

  1. I never particularly liked engaging in group settings.
  2. I never really had many friends – always just a few but close ones.
  3. I always preferred to be alone and by myself over going out and meeting other people. 
  4. I always disliked talking over mundane topics.
  5. I was generally more on the quiet side.

The older I got, the more things I started to notice about myself!

I always came back home super tired after having class at school. This issue, in particular, already started in elementary school. At first, I thought this was because of me being up too late at night, as I always had trouble with going to sleep on time. But soon, I noticed that no matter how early I went to bed, I always felt super tired whenever I came home from school. Often, I was so tired that I was incapable of doing my homework, and the older I got, the more of an issue this became. (Yes, you guessed right, I became a “very lazy” student as a consequence of that.)

I also skipped multiple school days because I couldn’t bear being with so many people in the same room every day who would suck out all of my energy just by their presence. This was also something that already started when I first got into elementary school as a super young kid and got worse the older I became. (This was also when I first developed migraine attacks due to the high amount of stress I was put through with every day I had to attend classes at school.)

All of that got worse through-out when I started to go to high-school. → But does that mean that I became more introverted with growing older?

While I would say that my issues got worse over time, my introversion pretty much stayed the same. You could say that my body was only capable of taking so much until it started to suffer more and more from the toxic lifestyle that I had.


This only got better when I left high school and started to go to university, but it only significantly improved when I finally switched to an online university. I’m nearly migraine-free, and I’ve never felt so active and energetic my whole life! Which, by the way, is such an improvement for an introvert like me who feels tired most of the time due to too much stimulation from the outside!

My nature didn’t change. But something has, right? 

As I mentioned, the one thing that has significantly improved was how I managed my “human battery” in general, to make sure that I would always be able to make the most out of my day. My confidence has also significantly improved over the past years, especially during the past months, as I started working online on social media as a digital content creator.

But looking back, the introverted young woman I am now is just as introverted as the shy young girl I used to be. I’m just a little less shy, a bit more confident, and more conscious about myself and my energy. As a result, I have a bit more energy left during the day, which makes me happier than I ever was!

Does that mean that I became more extroverted?

Of course not. Confidence and changing my way of living to always get enough recharge-time to fuel up my batteries didn’t make me more extroverted in any way. (The human brain doesn’t work this way!)

Being introverted means that your brain functions a certain way, which ultimately influences how you perceive the world and how your body reacts to outside stimulation. (This doesn’t change over time, and I’m sure that nothing will do that for you.)

That’s why it’s vital for us introverts to regularly take care of our need for solitude and give ourselves the recharge time we need as outside stimulation tires us quicker than others. The perfect lifestyle provides us with enough recharge time to fuel up our batteries and leaves enough room for alone-time in general, so our batteries don’t get empty too fast.

This will, of course, make us happier and more confident, as we will also learn more about ourselves and how our body works, but it won’t make us more extroverted.

My conclusion and opinion…

I think that society often mixes up confidence and happiness for being extroverted and shyness and withdrawal for being introverted when, in reality, none of those things mean that. 

Yes, I won’t say that there isn’t a specific connection, but just as much as introverts withdrawal to recharge their batteries, extroverts do that, too (even if not as often or as much as we have to). Does that make them more introverted? No. An extrovert who sometimes enjoys some time at home to do laundry is still an extrovert, no matter how much time they spend alone.

The life circumstances you’re in will always affect the way you live your life.

Introversion is a spectrum, that’s for sure. But at least for me, I feel just as introverted as I always was. The only thing that changed over the past months and years is that I created a lifestyle that fits my introverted and highly-sensitive personality, which helps me to keep my energy level as high as possible during the day so I can make the most out of it.

I’m still someone who tires easily. I’m still someone who spends most of my time alone at home because the outside world is too hectic and energy-sucking for me. But I’m still trying to live my life in the most fulfilling way, even if it means that on some days I can’t do more than just rest.

Please, keep in mind that this is just my own experience and opinion! I’m still very young and I can imagine, that those of you who are older than me, might have experienced things differently. I would love to know what you’re thoughts are about this whole topic, so please don’t hesitate to type them into the comments!

I also just recently uploaded a german podcast episode about this whole topic as well! Feel free to listen it on Spotify, Apple iTunes or Goolge Podcast.

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For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.