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How to respond to mean comments as an introvert (with confidence & kindness)

A serious question before we start: Is there a single introvert who didn’t receive mean comments about their behavior, personality, and over-all energy growing up?

If you answered with yes, I’m incredibly happy for you! But I’m also a tiny bit jealous… Want to know why?

I’m one of those introverts who got criticized a lot for being who I am growing up. There were teachers at middle school and later in high school, so-called friends, and even people that barely knew me who criticized me for being too quiet, too reserved, not outgoing enough, not talkative enough. They even had the audicity to call me boring, unnecessary and bland!

Having the knowledge I have now, I still wish I could travel back in time to save my younger me from all these toxic influences that were part of my life back then. I know I can’t, so I hope I can at least help those who are in a similar position right now.

If someone had given me a penny every time someone had something mean to say about my personality, I’d be a millionaire!

Don’t get me wrong, though. Of course, people are allowed to criticize others for showing bad behavior or making wrong decisions. I also get that people don’t get along with every personality type out there. I’m certainly the last one to pretend that being friends with i.e. an extreme extrovert would be easy for me as a very introverted person. I’m not for everyone, and I’m okay with that.

However, this doesn’t mean anyone has the right to make mean comments about other people’s personality and criticize them for being who they are just because they don’t enjoy their personality. As long as you’re still a good person, who cares if you like to read or day or go bungee-jumping? I, for sure, don’t. (We probably just won’t be very close friends if you like to go bungee-jumping all day… I’m a very “ndoor”-type of person.)

So, if you ever find yourself in a position where you’re facing someone’s mean comments about you and feel like giving a proper, but also confident response to stand up for yourself. THIS IS FOR YOU!

What did you just say to me?

People be like…

„You’re always so quiet. Say something!”

I prefer to talk when I have something to say and am not being forced to talk. Right now, there is nothing of value I could add to the conversation, so I prefer to stay quiet and listen.


„You’re so weird… always by yourself! Isn’t that boring?”

I enjoy spending time with myself, plus, because I’m always doing things that make me happy, I never get bored. My life would only be boring someone would force me to engange in things I don’t enjoy that much.

„You are missing out on so much fun you could have with other people!”

I actually can’t miss out on something that doesn’t make me happy! But I get that you would miss it dearly… it’s just not the same for me. It’s also not that I never spend time with people. I just like it to be on my terms and with lots of time for myself in-between.


„I think talking to more people would make you more extroverted!”

Actually, forcing myself to socialize more than I want to is going to influence my mental health in a very negative way, plus, my introversion is also not something that I need to be cured from. Socializing more won’t change that I’m an introvert, as it determines who my brain is wired.

I don’t like quiet people much. I think you guys are so weak!

In fact, quiet people are proven to be some of the strongest and most resilient people! We are naturally very good at staying grounded in difficult situations while working on adaquate solutions to arising problems. All of that, often times completely on our own.

„I’m sure you’d be more successful if you would work on being a little more extroverted…

It’s a common misconception that being an introverts prevents you from being successful, even though there are many famous and very successful people out there who are introverted. It all comes down to motivation, mindset, and confidence and has nothing to do with being introverted or not.

„I bet you’re feeling lonely most of the time, am I right?

I actually don’t. I do prefer to have just a few friends, but those are very close to my heart, and we engage with each other on a regular basis. I’m very thankful for having them in my life, as they make me feel loved and cared about.

„I heard smiling more makes you a happier person and more outgoing!

I understand that you want to be helpful, but smiling morewon’t erase my introversion, as it has nothing to do with being unhappy. It’s okay if you don’t enjoy my energy, we are clearly not at the same wave-length.

„Why don’t you have time to hang out with me? Do you hate me so much?

I’m very sorry for leaving this impression. I don’t at all hate you! It’s just that I often don’t have the social energy to hang out with anyone after coming back home from a day at work/school. It takes me some time to recharge my social battery, makes me prefer to spend the rest of the day mostly alone. I hope you can understand!

„You seem so arrogant & full of yourself.

You should work on making yourself look more approachable!

I’m already doing my best to make myself look as approachable as I possibly can, but because I don’t feel very accepted or welcomed in this environment, it’s very difficult for me to look happy about being here. I think it would help me a lot more if you would make me feel appreciated in this space instead of criticizing me for feeling uncomfortable.


I hope this comes in handy whenever someone drops a mean comment about you at school, at your workplace or even at home. Being an introvert isn’t a flaw and together we can work on making this world and society a better place for us quiet people!

Feel free to check out my socials! I would love to connect with you over on Instagram or Tiktok. Until next time and have a wonderful day! 🙂

Overthinking: Why it’s hard to stop & my tips to break the cycle

The past days, or should I say weeks, haven’t been easy for me. I’ve been struggling a lot with overthinking, especially in the past days, and it feels like it’s reaching its peak at this very second I’m writing this. My head feels like it’s going to explode any minute, my thoughts are spiraling inside my head, and I feel so incredibly mentally exhausted. Still, I somehow can’t make it stop.

Negative thoughts, worries, self-doubt.
Does this sound familiar to you?


A couple of days ago, I posted a little introvert reminder on Instagram, saying: “Some thoughts are not worth overthinking.” Oh boy, am I right with this.

And still, here I am sitting on my laptop on this wonderful Thursday evening, overthinking and overthinking… and driving myself mad…

@thegermanintrovert on Instagram!

Does that make me a hypocrite and a failure? Of course not.

Even I, someone who understands a lot about mental health and studies health psychology at university, struggles like every other human being. And overthinking is really my kryptonite…

If you’re an overthinker like me, you know that there are thoughts that just really want to stick in your brain. No matter what you try, the moment you think they are finally gone, they’re going to be there staring at you and forcing you to overthink them again. Believe me, not even my beloved forest walks can chase them away. I tried!

There are two types of overthinking:

Overthinking is thinking about things you don’t have any control over. Either it’s things that you worry about in the future or that you regret doing in the past. Each of them is a different type of overthinking but causing both the same type of unproductive and unpleasant worry.

Overthinking makes you dwell in the negative emotions and worry either of those situations are causing you without offering any room or mental capacity to find a solution. You are emotionally and mentally focusing on the problem and what pain it’s causing for you and not solving it. But trust me, this doesn’t happen because you suddenly lost all your remaining brain cells! It’s because you either lack the information to find a solution to your current problem or because you’re doubting yourself to be able to find one.

Thinking about a problem while focusing on solving the problem, on the other hand, isn’t considered overthinking. Overthinking is a very unproductive type of mental process. Problem-solving “overthinking”, on the other hand, focuses on making intelligent and productive connections between the problem, the current situation, and the given possibilities to find an appropriate solution for it.

Why it can be hard to “just stop” overthinking:

  1. You don’t know where to start looking for a solution to your problem
  2. You’re self-doubting yourself a lot
  3. You’re comparing yourself to others leaving yourself feeling insecure & powerless
  4. You are too afraid to look for (emotional) support
  5. You’re distracting yourself from it rather than looking for the root cause

My tip for introverts who are overthinking right now!

I know it’s not easy to break an on-going overthinking cycle, and to be honest, sometimes it just takes a lot of patience with yourself to finally get over it. But if one thing is for sure, then it’s that you need to take care of yourself when you feel stuck in overthinking things.

These past days, I have been finding it incredibly helpful to just listen to myself and what my heart and intuition were telling me. Do I need a break? Do I need to retreat? Whatever it was, I’m still trying to just give myself what I needed to reduce the pressure I was also putting on me.

After logging off from social media for two days, something I instantly felt drawn to was to grab my journal and write my heart out.

Guiding journaling prompts that I used:

“What am I overthinking right now?”

“How do I feel about myself in this very moment?”

“What would be a good reason stop worrying about this?”

Give yourself time & do things that make you happy

If there is one thing you don’t want to do when you’re in the midst of overthinking, it is pushing yourself to your limits. Give yourself time. Give yourself space. Do things that genuinely make you happy. Do things that raise your self-esteem and make you feel good about yourself.

It’s okay to worry, I do it, too. Things don’t always go smoothly and it’s totally normal to struggle sometimes. It’ll pass. I promise!

Whatever is going on in your head right now while reading this, please know that you’re not alone! And trust me, the things you’re worrying about right now are probably not as bad or as significant as you think they are in real life. I don’t know about you, but putting things in perspective always brings back a little bit of peace into my mind.


Sending you a big virtual hug!

Why where you live matters as an introvert (and HSP)

This probably doesn’t come to you as a surprise considering my website’s name (and on every other social media platform), but let me say it anyway: I’m german 🙂 And you might have already guessed it, I also live in Germany. More specifically, I live in the south of Germany, somewhere quite a bit outside of Bavaria’s biggest city Munich. And let me tell you, I’m so incredibly glad about the location I live in. Far away from the city, but also close enough that going to the city doesn’t take longer than an hour. (In case I need to be there for some reason.)

After getting to know myself better and better over the past years and learning about my introversion and highly sensitive nature, I’m incredibly thankful that I don’t live in or too close to the city. And to be honest with you… the happier I become in my own skin, the more I actually crave to move away even more. Funny enough, it hasn’t always been this way!

When I was a teenager, I thought living in the city would be perfect for me. I whole-heartedly believed that my life would become so much easier when I wouldn’t have to travel up to 40 minutes by train to reach the city center. Living in an apartment right in the city? For a very long time this actually was my dream! Until I realized, that I might not be the right person to live that dream.

Why shouldn’t you live in the city as a highly sensitive introvert?

At first, living in the city, having pretty much everything in walking distance, and being able to travel everywhere by train in less than 15 minutes sounded like the solution to all my problems. Mostly because I knew how exhausting train rides could be, especially if you had to switch train lines to get to your final destination. But after working in the city for over 3 years and spending a considerable amount of time there as well, I realized that living in the city isn’t for everyone – most definitely not for me. Luckily, I didn’t have to make the “living in the city” experience before realizing this!

What changed my perspective?

There are different things that I noticed that made spending time in the city every day and for longer than just one or two hours nearly unbareable for me.

Here are a few of them:

1. The constant noise caused by cars driving up the streets all day long (and of construction sites as well!)

2. The countless number of people running from one place to another (which causes strangers bump into you more often than it is acceptable)

3. The lack of fresh and clean air thanks to all the pollution

4. Traffic jams everywhere (hearing cars honk is so annoying!)

5. The countless buildings glued next to each other making greenery like trees and bushes a real rarety in the city

6. New faces & people everywhere you go (which I personally find very unsettling for some reason)

7. The hectic engery in the city (which is just super draining if you are one of those people who pick up on energies quickly)

And as a highly sensitive introvert, who is naturally very sensitive to outside stimulation of any kind, likes to feel safe and enjoys having lots of nature around…. all the mentioned things are just absolute horror!

And I’m not the only one experiencing it this way!

What kind of environments make sense for introverts?

From various conversations with fellow introverts and highly sensitive people, I realized that I’m not alone who doesn’t enjoy the city very much. And from my own experiences, I know now that what sounded pretty cool at first can quickly turn into a real nightmare for me. After working for 3 and a half years right in the city center, I could never imagine living in this or a similar kind of surrounding area.

What would I look out for when choosing my future home as an introvert & HSP:

I actually have been thinking about this quite a lot, and I came to the conclusion that there are certainly a few things I like to check off my list before I would even think about moving into a new home.

My biggest and most important points:

  1. Nature: I want and need nature around me, and ideally, there is a forest in near walking distance
  2. Calm area: I definitely don’t need to be living in front of a busy main street. So, the calmer the area, the better!
  3. Town size: The bigger the town, the more people are going to be around – so keep that in mind when you choose it
  4.  Transport infrastructure: This can be a tricky one, depending on how far outside the city you want to live

Of course, I’m not claiming that these points are absolute necessities for every introvert. But I do believe that you would absolutely benefit from taking these different aspects into account. I will keep those points in mind as soon as I move out of my parent’s home and decide to move somewhere else.

A little side notes: Some introverts are meant for the city. There will always be a few exceptions who absolutely adore the city life, and if you happen to be one of them – congrats! Still, for the majority, living in the city is an absolute nightmare, and from what I’ve experienced, I will never recommend it to any introvert out there, let alone highly sensitive ones.

What are your thoughts on this? Let me know in the comments or over on Instagram.

I can’t wait to hear from you! 🙂

My New Year’s Resolutions & Hopes for 2021 🎇

Wow, 2020 will soon be over, and honestly, I can’t wait for the new year to begin. 2020 was a lot! Not only for me but for so many other people from all around the world. I think it’s about time that this year finally comes to an end! Though, I will admit, 2020 was not only bad for me… it for sure also has its good moments. For example, that being an introvert never felt this good in my entire life than it did this year. I just wish the circumstances were different…

But in case you don’t share the same feelings about 2020 like me, I have some fantastic news for you: Tomorrow, we’ll be all starting into a full new year of possibilities, open doors, and chances! My fingers are crossed that 2021 will be a fantastic year for each and every one of us!

Today, because it’s the last day of 2020, I decided to share with you my resolutions for the new upcoming year of 2021. Maybe this will inspire you in some way or another!

Let’s make 2021 OUR year, shall we?

Less pressure, more relaxation!

This is actually a very big intention I have set for myself for 2021 because this year, unfortunately, I have been putting myself under a lot of unnecessary pressure – and it showed! I’m not a “hustle” type of person. I hate putting myself under pressure. Still, especially during this summer, I totally ignored the fact that I’m a rather slow and intuitive person when it comes to work, projects and studying. Instead, I tried to really push myself towards working on my goals day after day, because I thought this was the right thing to do. But after pushing and pushing myself over the edge several times over the course of 2020, which resulted in many migraine attacks, loss of my hormonal cycle and other awful side-effects, I have definitely learned my lesson: No more putting myself under pressure in 2021!

Also, I’m so done feeling guilty for wanting to rest, spending time alone and being “unproductive” while doing that. As introverts and highly sensitive people, we need time off to load our batteries and recharge. It’s natural and so important! Accepting that this is just who I am and nothing that I can change – yes I tried – is taking me one step further into living a happy life.

My ideas for more daily relaxation:

  • Prepare things in advance (for work, university, daily life, school…) so there is more time for you to relax & recharge
  • No more stressing about no-/low-impact problems (I see you, perfectionist!)
  • Set up clear boundaries for yourself to make sure you’re taking enough time off
  • Figure out your own personal working style & adapt your current one to it
  • Spend more time doing the things you love (because nothing makes you more productive than being happy!)

Stop trying to multitask!

If there is one thing I’m just really, really bad at, it’s multitasking. I am the worst at it, especially because I forget things super quickly and lose interest in things just as fast. Therefore, it’s essential for me to stop trying to be like everybody else who manages to have multiple different things on their plate without messing things up in the process. I’m not one of those people and that’s perfectly fine! Taking things one step at a time will be my motto for 2021. I hope this is going to prevent me from burning out quickly, losing interest in things too fast and also will help me keep my motivation for things as high as it can be!

Do more of what you love!

Even though I’m the type of person who forgets a lot and loses interest in things very quickly, I’m also open to try out new things and follow what my heart wants. This year, my drive to try out something new that fascinated me from the get-go made me even step out of my comfort zone and I took my first ever dancing class in Modern Jazz Dance in October this year. Now, I also started to take online classes in Ballett and I’m so happy about it!

But apart from taking dancing classes, I also started to learn how to digitally draw. I’m not an artist, and I don’t aspire to be one, but it’s also something I want to put more of my time into, as it’s a lot of fun and I enjoy it very much. Still, one thing I really want and need to work on is to keep doing the things I love and enjoy – even when they feel a little bit challenging at times… Maybe you are also an introvert with an eclectic range of interests and can relate?

All in all, my one big intention for 2021 is nothing more or less than to be happy!

I don’t know how 2021 is going to be for anyone of us, but I only wish and hope for the best. And who knows, maybe 2021 is going to be a better year for us introverts? I won’t give my hopes up that one day people will stop judging us for being who we are and instead accept and support us in this society.

See you in 2021, dear fellow introvert! 🌲✨

Positive affirmations for introverts 🌼

In case you are struggling right now or feel insecure about yourself, I gathered a few very powerful positive affirmations that you can use for yourself in your daily life.

Either print out this whole blog post or select a few to write down on a piece of paper! I promise, reading them out loud or in your head every day will absolutely improve your mental state and how you perceive yourself as an introvert.

Daily positive affirmations for introverts:

„I am whole.“

„I am enough.“

„I am worthy of love.“

„I respect my own boundaries.“

„I love who I am.“

„I am aware of my needs.“

„I let go of judging myself.“

„I am proud of who I am.“

„I can achieve everything I want in my own time.“

„I deserve to rest.“

„I embrace my uniqueness.“

„I conquer my fears with little steps.“

„I am unstoppable.“

„I am powerful.“

„I am strong.“

„I attract the people who are good for me.“

„I allow myself to grow through making mistakes.“

„I am happy.“

„I am kind.“

„I am deserving of love.“

„I believe in myself and my capabilities.“

„My mind is a place of uplifting thoughts.“

„I have loving and supportive relationships.“

„I take care of myself and my needs.“

„My needs are important.“

„I let go of all expectations.“

„I am unique and wonderful.“

„I am perfect the way I am.“

I hope these short affirmations will help you see yourself in a new positive light. It’s important to repeat them regularly (preferably daily) to raise your confidence and self-love.

Let me know which affirmations you like the most in the comments or over on Instagram.🧡

For more inspiration on life as an introvert check out my social media. I would love to let you in into my daily life as an introvert & show you how beautiful life as an introvert can be!

CBD Oil: Why I take it & how it helped me as an introvert

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I first started to use CBD Oil about around 5 months ago. After debating about taking it for a little while, I managed to build up the courage to give it a go for the first time. Yes, I was a little bit concerned at the beginning, to be honest. I’ve been hearing so many different things about CBD online that made me a little bit unsure about it, nonetheless, I decided that I need to try it to see if it’s something for me.

It didn’t take long for me to start doing my research, and by the end of the month, I ordered my first ever bottle of CBD oil online. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made! Here I’ll be now sharing my experiences with you and what to expect if you decide to give it a go as well.

How does CBD work?

The body has an endocannabinoid system (ECS), which plays a major role in your body’s central nervous system. The endocannabinoid system is comprised of cannabinoid receptors called CB1 and CB2 receptors. These receptors co-ordinate several functions in your body like, for example, mood, appetite, emotion, pain. What does CBD does to this system?

CBD impacts the activity of both of the endocannabinoid receptors in the ECS. By stimulating these receptors, it helps to reduce (chronic) pain and inflammations in the body. It can also positively affect your emotions by reducing stress and lifting up your over-all mood. >> Click here to read more about this process.

What has changed since I started to take CBD oil as an introvert and HSP?

It still feels insane to me how much I have benefited from taking highy quality CBD in the past months as an introvert and highly sensitive person. Particularly as someone who is naturally rather anxious and prone to experiencing high amounts of stress and nervousness, and is a migraineur on top of that!

In acute siutations:

First of all, taking CBD oil has helped me a lot in dealing with the stress. Particularly in the past months during summer. I’ve been starting new projects and stepping outside of my comfort zone a lot during this time, which has been really getting to me emotionally and physically. I felt super stressed out and at some point started to have real physical symptoms as well.

CBD oil has helped me a lot with getting this under control again just by calming down my nerves and bringing me back into the present moment. Which is why, in acute situations involving anxiety and high amounts of stress, this has been really a lifesaver!

In my daily life:

I can also say that I generally started to feel way less nervous in my day-to-day life since I started to take CBD oil regularly. I feel way more comfortable in my own skin, generally less troubled inside, and can stay focused a lot easier than before. Also, situations, where I’m exposing myself to lots of external stimulation feel a lot less draining to me!

Even social situations feel less of a burden to me, which is truly kind of surprising to me as an introvert. Taking a few drops of CBD beforehand helps me to enjoy meet-ups with friends way longer, and I feel like I get a little less quickly drained when I have one or two friends around. Of course, it hasn’t magically turned me into an extrovert, but it does help make my batteries last a little bit longer!

Which CBD Oil brand do I use?

I use the CBD oils by a new german hemp oil brand called Purefy. This new german brand produces high-quality hemp oil that is sustainable and organic-certified. I’m so happy that I came across their products, as I was looking for a high-quality brand for a very long time.

My personal favorite is the 10% hemp oil, which you can order online and get shipped eco-friendly right to your home. USE CODE “INTROVERT15” to get 15% off your purchase! Visit the shop here: https://purefy.de

Disclaimer: Purefy currently only ships to Germany and Austria. I hope they’ll be able to ship worldwide soon!

How about my migraine attacks?

A little bit about my migraine attacks…

I can have around 2-5 migraine attacks per month. My migraine attacks last for about 4-6 hours and usually come with very intense pain on either the right or left side. They are often accompanied by other symptoms like nausea, visual disturbances, numbness in my hands, and extreme sensitivity to lights and noises.

Having a migraine attack is not fun at all. One attack usually knocks me out for a whole day, sometimes even longer. I can experience the side-effects of it even two days after. The good news is that since I started to use CBD, I’m a lot less afraid of having a migraine attack.

Taking a few drops of CBD takes away all of my pain during a migraine attack, making it a lot easier for me to deal with the situation. Sometimes, if I take it quickly enough, it can even prevent the migraine attack from fully evolving, which is such a big advantage for me, as I normally get knocked out for a whole day when I have one. This alone makes me so so happy that I discovered CBD oil – a natural remedy – for myself to deal with this.

How often and when do I take CBD?

How often I take CBD depends on how I feel each day. If I’m feeling a little bit nervous or anxious, I would usually take a few (2-3) drops two to three times around the day. I would also always take a few CBD drops before leaving the house, especially when I’m about to go to working my shift at my side-job or going somewhere busy or crowded.

When I have a migraine attack, I usually take more than just a few drops depending on the pain level and the intensity of the attack. Normally, five drops will do the trick, but I will always proceed to take another five more extra drops on top when I notice the pain is arising. My migraine pains can be really intense, so this varies a lot!

Is CBD dangerous?

Consuming CBD is not dangerous at all. It’s not addictive, it doesn’t cause hallucinations or makes you high. If you are unsure about taking CBD, I recommend to talk to a doctor before taking it.

How can CBD help you as an introvert:

  • Reduce anxiety and nervousness
  • Help you deal with stress
  • Betters your sensitivity to external stimulation
  • Reduces pain like migraine pain or headaches

Depending on the reasons you choose to take hemp oil for, the amount of CBD you need can vary. I use 10% as it works best for me to get rid of intense pain. But even a lower percentage of CBD like 5% can be enough to help you deal with nervousness and anxiety. Therefore, I recommend starting small if it’s your first time using it and you don’t intend to use it to help you with intense pain.

Let me know if you have any experiences with CBD and hemp oil. I’d love to read about them in the comments!

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3 Things I don‘t find weird about my introverted self anymore!🦉

Like most introverts, I also grew up feeling like there was something wrong with me. Although, back then, I had no clue why or what made me so different, I knew that I just was. I always stood out in a very negative and unpleasant way, and no matter how hard I tried, people always criticized me for being who I am in some shape or form.

Luckily, I started to better understand myself and the psychology behind my personality and behavior over time. I briefly talked about my journey in one of my previous blog posts, where I also touched on the impact it had on my confidence. During my research, I also have gained some major realizations, which opened a whole new perspective on the way I see myself today. Let me share a few of them with you today!

1. Our hidden superpower: Low need for social contact

I believe you know that there are many people out there who can’t stand the thought of being alone. And especially during this global pandemic, it was made very clear that it can be tough for some people to cope with being alone. But as introverts, being alone is actually more a blessing than a curse. 

I never not enjoyed being alone, and I love spending time with myself. Just because many people can’t understand that doesn’t make it weird in any way. It’s actually pretty cool, considering that we introverts are currently enjoying social-distancing while other’s, unfortunately, are really struggling right now. We are actively contributing to society by preferring to be alone. How cool is that?

2. Silence is often misinterpreted by extroverts

One of the funniest things I started to realize about human behavior is that silence can mean many things. Staying silent after being asked something can mean “no,” but also “yes”. It can also mean that you’re hiding something or that you didn’t understand the question in the first place. Silence is a very versatile answer, and yet, most people assume that it means that you don’t care. A huge misinterpretation! 

From my standpoint, I think this is because extroverts are used to hear someone say their thoughts out loud. We introverts, on the other hand, tend to keep our thoughts and opinions to ourselves. We only speak when we are sure about the things we want to say. A concept that can be hard to grasp for people who are used to say every thought out loud. I just think we are being very respectful!

3. It’s better to have a small circle as an introvert

As introverts, we aren’t made to fit in with the crowd or be friends with lots of people. We are the type of people who only have a handful of close friendships – a small circle with very well selected people in it – that we can count on and have our back. And I personally think, as someone who generally has a rather low need for social interaction, this makes absolute sense.

Trying to have a large friend group as someone who barely has the time or energy to be friends with multiple people can be stressful and very unsatisfying. It’s not at all weird that you keep your circle small. After all, you’re just making sure that the time and energy you invest in a friendship are of quality. You can’t tell me that this is not very considerate of us!

My big “introvert realization”?

As you can hopefully see, the things we find weird about ourselves compared to other people, are actually not as odd as we think when we take a closer look at it. We don’t harm anyone by being who we are; quite on the contrary: I believe that by being our true selves, we are actually doing good in every way possible.

You are not weird in any way. Society is weird for making us believe that about ourselves!

For more inspiration on life as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

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Stepping out of your comfort zone as an introvert & my experiences!

I know, stepping out of your comfort zone as an introvert is scary. I can say that from my own experienceEven now, I still get anxious every freaking time I choose to do something that feels a little bit new, although I’ve been doing it quite a lot in the past months! Regardless, I also know how important it is — for your growth as a person, but also as an introvert!

Why is leaving your comfort zone essential for you as an introvert?

Generally speaking, leaving your comfort zone is always a good idea — even though it may feel quite a bit challenging! Every time you leave your comfort zone, you provide your brain with new input, which it can use to f.e. become better at coping with stressful situations and become better at finding solutions for uprising problems.

It’s also an excellent way to help you learn from mistakes and, with that, learn to predict future steps. Lastly, it’s also a good way to show you what you are made of, which can help you grow your confidence!

What if you don’t want to leave your comfort zone?

Don’t get me wrong. I feel you. As an introvert, who is also more on the anxious side, I really love my comfort zone. Motivating myself to do something unfamiliar costs me tremendous amounts of courage and willpower. And if I lack any of those, chances are I’ll probably rather stay with what I know and not leave my comfort zone at all.

But — not leaving your comfort zone every now and then also means that everything will always stay the same. Your surroundings, the circumstances you are in — even yourself.

It means to always and forever stick to the things that you are used to and comfortable with. There won’t be any growth, no new experiences, and no learning — not even from mistakes! Because most of those things happen outside of your comfort zone.

Yes, you can grow as a person staying inside your comfort zone. But not as much as you can outside of it!

Apart from personal growth, not leaving our comfort zone can cause various other issues that might hinder you from living your life to the fullest. F.e., losing interest in chasing after your dreams or lack of perseverance – as both require from you to leave your comfort zone from time to time.

About my experiences with leaving my comfort zone

Believe it or not, but leaving my comfort zone is not easy for me, too. Not at all! I tend to have really high expectations of myself sometimes, making it not easy for me to do things I’m not yet familiar with. For example, starting this blog and my whole social media presence has been quite a huge decision out of my comfort zone!

When I first started to blog and be on social media as a content creator, I really had no clue where I wanted to go with this. But I knew one thing for sure – that I was scared shitless anyone would find my stuff, judge me for it, and then bully me again for the things I post online. Back then, I barely had any confidence in myself and have barely tried to do something outside of what felt comfortable for me. I really enjoyed staying in my comfort zone…

Learning & growing as an introvert

Over time, I slowly started to feel more comfortable with the things I shared online and who I grew into. And this huge step out of my comfort zone really motivated me to take one step after the next even further outside of it. Not only on social media or my blog but also in my general day-to-day life.

What looked like little baby steps to others felt giant steps for me, though!

And all these giant steps made me more confident in handling situations, approaching new possibilities and ideas, and who I am as a person. I started to listen more to myself, my intuition, and my heart and also began to ignore what other people said about me or others. Suddenly, I felt like there was barely any room for negative self-talk, and so I kind of just stopped.

Of course, I can’t say that what other people say about me (or others) doesn’t bother me anymore, but I do believe that I definitely made some improvements regarding this in the past couple of months!

My advice for you as an anxious introvert

I believe that what really motivated me – especially as an introvert – was slowly stepping out of my comfort zone more and more with every time while having a goal set into my mind.

I had to think of the bigger purpose of me doing certain things and trying to overcome any of my fears. Like putting myself in front of the camera for the first time ever and speak about things that matter to me. Or recording reels on Instagram to share meaningful or lightweight and funny content.

Forcing yourself to do something out of your comfort zone without having a bigger intention in mind won’t work – at least it didn’t work for me!

Lastly, watching other people do the things you’re most afraid of and breaking down the steps to get there also helps a lot. Please be aware that you don’t start to compare yourself with those people, though. Watch to get inspiration from them and encourage yourself to do the same, but not to bring yourself down or even get jealous. I promise, you’ll get there!

Small steps are better than no steps at all!

Feel free to share with me your experiences with leavin your comfort zone as an introvert down in the comments or over on social media!

For more inspiration on life as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

My journey: Learning to accept my introverted personality

Growing up as an introvert in a society that isn’t very appreciative of quiet people wasn’t easy. Knowing that people didn’t accept or like me for who I was – and still am – was tough. Most people found my personality to be VERY odd, to say the least. Barely anyone understood me. I saw it. I heard it. People even told me that right to my face. You can imagine that this alone made me believe all kinds of negative things about myself. Eventually, it even led me to neglect my own personality and forcing myself to be like how people wanted me to be. Even though it made me really upset and didn’t work for me at all, I thought this was the only right way. Unfortunately, this is something many other introverts out there experience as well. Do you recognize yourself?

It’s safe to say that most of my life I spend hating myself. No, I was no “special snowflake” or someone who pretended to be so different. I actually was different. So different that I spent the first 18 years of my life not only feeling like an outcast but also living the life of an outcast, including being bullied for years and being taken advantage of by numerous people who never actually cared about me. Does this sound familiar to you?

It took me some time to realize that I wasn’t the problem.

My self-discovery journey

Leaving high-school and switching to university was my jump start into a new life. It’s also where my self-discovery journey, that ultimately inspired me to start building up my Instagram page began. (By the way, if you don’t follow me on Instagram yet, feel free to check it out — my page: thegermanintrovert)

I was just at beginning of understanding myself when I decided to share my thoughts online

It was somewhere around the internet, a couple of months prior to creating my Instagram Page, that I stumbled across the terms of “introversion” and “extroversion”. When I read about the “introversion” side of the spectrum I started to realize one thing: What if I’m not a lost cause, but just an introvert who has been taught that she needed to be and act contrary to her personality to fit into the extrovert-oriented expectations of our society?

As someone who was already very interested in psychology, I just had to start doing my research on this topic from that point on. And yes, you could say I kind of got obsessed with it! (No wonder I just HAD to start studying psychology this year after finishing my first degree in business administration and marketing.)

Reading more and more about introversion and what psychologists had to say about it as the core nature of someone’s personality literally changed everything for me. Suddenly everything started to make sense to me and I slowly began accepting myself for who I was with every following day.

What came next?

If you are an introvert yourself who just recently started to really get to know yourself (maybe after stumbling across my Instagram or my Blog), you know that learning abot you being an introvert changes a lot. And so it did for me! But with all the things that changed (f or the better!) also came a lot of work. Work that I had to put into myself to create a life that fits my needs and personality.

>>Read my blogpost: This changed since I started to accept my introverted self<<

1. Letting go of toxic friendships

This one was honestly the most challenging step in my self-discovery and self-acceptance journey! Letting go of people is never easy – especially not the toxic ones, as they have a way to gaslight you into believing all kinds of nasty things about yourself and your reality.

Of course, some toxic people aren’t necessarily bad people! Some just don’t fit into your life anymore, which doesn’t make it any easier to let go of them.

It sure might feel like you’re breaking up with someone, but it’s honestly so worth it. It’s very liberating and kind of feels like a fresh start when you manage to get rid of people who only hold you back from your true potential. Plus, as an introvert, you already lose so much energy just by interacting with people. So, you for sure don’t want to waste your energy on toxic ones.

2. Challenging old beliefs & thoughts

Another big step in my self-discovery journey was to take a really close look into my belief system. What do I think about myself? What have people make me believe? What has society taught me? Challenging each belief and thought I had at back then was vital for me to make progress in my personal growth as an introvert.

Why?, you might ask.

As I said at the beginning, people and society made me believe all kinds of negative things about myself. They made me believe that something was wrong with me. That I needed to fix parts of myself and become how they wanted me to be. So I can finally be liked by other people for once! And as someone who got bullied from an early age on, I really believed everything other people had to say about me.

So, detaching myself from what I believed was true (especially about myself) and reevaluating every single thought and belief I had was extremely important for me, so I could eventually start seeing myself as who I really was!

3. Getting to know my needs and acting accordingly

Lastly, getting to know my needs – and I mean, like really getting to know them – was absolutely a necessity for me during my self-discovery journey. I knew that I always felt more drawn to specific activities and ways of living, but I never actually knew the reason behind it. So, getting to know me as an introvert and learning to accept myself as that included to also look deeper into what I like and care about and what brings me joy or not.

This automatically made me feel less ashamed of myself and even made me proud of liking the things I like, because I started to see the reasons behind it!

It also made me more aware of who I am and what I need to be happy. Suddenly, doing things I disliked or I didn’t felt like doing felt more wrong than ever. Pushing myself over the edge only so I won’t be seen as boring, or even worse, make someone not like me? Definitely not happening anymore!

Self-acceptance starts with you. Wanting to be somebody else is a waste of time. (Marilyn Monroe)

Where are you on your self-discovery journey right now? Feel free to comment or message me on Instagram to share with me your experiences as an introvert. Would love to hear from you!

For more inspiration on life as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

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Why you need extroverted friends as an introvert!😊

No personality type is more idealized in our society than the extroverted personality type. Especially in business, extroverts are like the popstars entrepreneurs all recruiters look up to. Pretty much everybody wants to be like them, and honestly, I can’t blame them!

Extroverts – are they really so special?

Most extroverts are really fun to be around, and many for sure know how to win the crowd. That’s also why so many actors, singers, comedians, and public speakers are extroverts. Yet, not every extrovert is like that – even between extroverts, there are can be huge differences in character and personality that makes each extrovert unique. Still, most extroverts have it easier a lot easier than us the introverts, when it comes to social interactions and social life in general.

Contrary to us introverts, extroverts are usually more open towards the new. New faces don’t make them this nervous, they are also way more talkative than us, and they usually don’t have huges struggles with feeling comfortable in a new situation. An extrovert also doesn’t mind group projects or spending extra time with co-workers after their shift to strengthen their relationship with each other.

All in all, extroverts are really good at anything that requires social communication! But should we introverts hate them for that, because communication usually isn’t our strong suit? No, of course not.

Instead of secretly hating your extroverted co-workers or fellow students at university or school, how about connecting with each other to establish a friendship that is of mutual help to each other?

The benefits of having an extroverted friend

Let me introduce you to a couple of reasons why you should have extroverted friends as an introvert! Of course, it’s not mandatory to have one if you can’t seem to connect with any extrovert on a more personal level. But I can assure you that being friends with one you enjoy to occasionally spend your time with can be super fun as well as beneficial to you.

1. No more awkward silence

As already mentioned, extroverts are really good at talking. Not everyone is great at it, but they usually know how to fill the silence and jump from one conversation topic to the next.

How does this help you? As introverts, we all know the struggle of keeping a conversation going. Especially with people we barely know, this can be very challenging. For extroverts, not so much! They probably do not even notice that you’re struggling and naturally take over the conversation, so you don’t have to worry about unintentionally creating an awkward silence.

2. They cheer you on when you’re scared

Extroverted people aren’t nearly naturally as scared as we introverts are. This is because their brain enjoys the new stimulation they get from being at unfamiliar and new places and generally making new experiences wherever they go! We introverts are quite the contrary. Of course, not every one of us gets super anxious, but we all tend to be way more careful and cautious than others. Sometimes, this makes us very hesitant to try new things even though we know that we would enjoy it.

Extroverts can be of great help when it comes to these kinds of situations! They usually aren’t scared of trying out new things and way more willing to have those new experiences — even if they feel scared. Seeing your extrovert friend doing something with barely any hesitation and watching it go well can help you gather your courage to make the same step forward.

3. Need company? Say no more!

If I know one thing for sure, it’s that having an extroverted friend is absolutely a life-saver whenever you need to go somewhere new but feel unsure of going on your own. Most extroverts, if not all, are always down to accompany you if you need their emotional support – at least if they aren’t somewhat bad people, and you actually have the guts to tell them that you need their help.

I really envy this about extroverts because I wish I could lend someone this unique kind of (emotional) support that an extrovert can provide! And I do hope you have someone in your life who can lend you exactly this type of support when you need it.

4. Always there if you need someone to talk

The last thing I want to bring up yet again are the insane communication skills of an extrovert compared to us introverts. This not only comes in handy whenever they are in social situations, perhaps with groups or business partners, but also in normal day-to-day life. Which also includes situations where someone is upset or sad and needs someone else to talk to.

I know that it’s not very common for introverts that we feel like we have to talk to someone. But just in case it ever happens and you do feel like you have to talk about your problems and feelings and everything else that has been overwhelming you lately – an extroverted friend might be your best option to get it all out. This, of course, doesn’t mean that an introverted friend can’t be as helpful – not at all! Talking to a fellow introvert can be insanely useful in many ways, but only if you’re ready to truly open up about the things that are going on in your mind. In case you don’t, an extrovert might be the better option!

At the end of the day…. it doesn’t matter if your friend is an extrovert or not. What matters is if your friend is a kindhearted person who supports you whenever you need help. A fellow introvert who gets you can be just as powerful of a friend as any extrovert could possibly be!

“It is the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.”

Marlene Dietrich

And just in case you’re wondering right now why this article reads like you’re reading about yourself, but you identify yourself as an introvert – chances are you’re not actually introverted! Read my previous blog post to get to know yourself better >> “3 Signs you might not be a real introvert”


For more inspiration on life as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.