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3 Signs you might not be a real introvert – maybe you’re an extrovert or ambivert?🤷‍♀️

The German Introvert walking along a field of sunflowers

As an introvert, I know what it feels like to be one.

I was born an introvert, and I will most certainly die an introvert as well. It’s nothing that changes over time or that I can influence to change. So, you could say, at this point, I’m quite sure that there is no way I will ever experience what it feels like not to be an introvert. (Scary thought that there are people who don’t know what it feels like, huh?)

As an introvert, I’m quite sure I know how most introverts feel like deep inside. I know from my own experience where particular behavior comes from, and I think I can kind of predict it as well, thanks to my knowledge in psychology. I don’t believe that people don’t have a free will – even an introvert can behave totally differently to their personality if they want to. Still, I think that most of us have specific behaviorism in common, making it easy to tell us from extroverts apart.

Have you been mistyping yourself for an introvert?

So in this blog post, I want to share a couple of facts to help you figure out if you have been mistyping yourself or are indeed an introvert. Trust me, this can happen quite easily, considering introversion-extroversion being a spectrum and all the misconceptions about introverts in our society!

Here are the 3 signs you might have mistyped yourself for being introverted:

1. You love talking to people and meeting up with them!

Starting off with an obvious one! As an introvert, this couldn’t be more not true for me. It’s not that I hate people or hate talking to them, but I honestly could go days without talking to or seeing anyone and wouldn’t be bothered by it in the slightest. For extroverts, this sounds probably more like a nightmare! The only ones that could possibly manage it, while still being a bit sad about it at some point are ambiverts, in my opinion.

I noticed, that especially during quarantine, extroverts have had the biggest struggles. I saw them crying online and going into quarantine with friends, because they couldn’t bear the lack of human contact. Some were even falling into depression because of it. If that is or was something you struggled with during quarantine, I hate to break it to you, but you’re most definitely not an introvert.

2. You find solutions to problems by talking about them with others!

For introverts, it’s quite natural that we think before we speak. (That’s why most of us, if not all, are huge overthinkers!) This also goes for when we are facing problems and need to find solutions for it. I can tell you, before an introvert decides to ask anyone for help or talk to anyone about it in some way or another, we will first try to figure it out ourselves. This includes thinking about specific outcomes, sketching out different ways of approaching the problem, and creating multiple scenarios to see where it could lead us.

Extroverts tend to approach problems in quite the opposite way! They usually have to talk to someone about the issue they are facing. They develop their solution to a problem by talking with someone about it and all the various scenarios and as well as ways of approaching it. While introverts think before they speak, extroverts think while and after talking. You’re most likely not an introvert if you can resonate more with the extrovert’s way than the introvert’s way of solution-finding.

3. You have a huge friend group and are always in touch with everyone!

Lastly, I also want to mention that introverts are usually pretty private people. We don’t have large friend groups or tons of close friends. I personally prefer to have a small circle of friends with a maximum of 5 people, which is a really high number for an introvert if you ask me. I literally don’t have the capacity nor the energy to be friends with more people than that. And even now, with having 5 friends, it’s really hard for me to take care of each of these friendships properly. I really like each person, but I often just don’t have the energy to meet and spend time with each of them.

As I said earlier, I don’t hate people, and I’m also not afraid of them (most of the time at least), but as an introvert, I really don’t need as much social contact as extroverts or even ambiverts would to be happy. This also goes for chatting over text messages, calling each other over the phone and all the other things. I check my text messages probably once a day and I think that’s completely enough for me.

Honestly, I’m that much of a private person that it happens quite regularly that I just forget that other people, including my friends, still exist. Isn’t that crazy? 😀

There’s more to consider when typing yourself!

Of course, there many more things to consider when trying to type yourself, either being more introverted or extroverted. It’s a spectrum, and ambiverts prove that some people really are just somewhere right in the middle. There are many tests online that you can do to figure out where you lean more towards to and doing a little research always helps.

As an introvert, I always have kind of known, even if I didn’t know the term for describing it. But if you find yourself questioning if you actually fit into the “I’m an introvert” category, chances are that you’re actually not that much of an introvert.

How introverted would you say are you on a scale from 0 (not at all) to 10 (very introverted)?

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.

13 Comments

  1. I find it so much more easy to socialize in the blogosphere and would say I have quite a good number of friends here!☺️ But I am a huge overthinker, and like to solve my problems myself. Also, I don’t like social gatherings. 😂So, I would say I rank somewhere between a 7 and an 8?🤔
    Loved this post!❤️

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  2. Willet Williams says

    Thank you so much for making this blog. At first when I declared myself as an introvert, I wanted to gather more knowledge about the subject. From reading your past blogs and other psychology related articles. K can clearly say I am an introvert. I love this blog, thank you for making this.

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  3. Sometimes I feel like you mix up characteristics and extra vs Introversion.
    Not every introvert has the same character/characteristics. Being introverted means that you loose energy while socialising and getting energy while being on your own, alone.
    So only because you like meeting your best friend nearly every day doesnt mean that you cant be an introvert since it could still be exhausting to you meeting your best friend. The same goes for asking for help. That has almost(!) nothing to do with the Main characteristic of Introversion.

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    • Thank you for your comment! Being an introvert goes way deeper than losing energy through social contact. This has something to do with how our brain works (sympathic and parasympathetic side activation), which influences how we approach obstacles and problems in our daily life. Of course, not every introvert is the same, and I talk a lot about that on my Instagram Account! This is also why I put a disclaimer on the bottom of the blog post, stating that these three very common signs aren’t the only three things to consider. Introversion is a spectrum.☺️ Feel free to do your research aside from my blog posts! But I have to say, that wanting to meet your best friend every day isn’t very common for introverts – this sounds more like something that ambiverts with more energy capacity and higher need for stimulation would do.🌼

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  5. Das ist eine gut Aufzählung und ich glaube auch, dass diese 3 Punkte wesentlich für die Definition als Intro sind. Ich sehe es auch sooo an meinen extrovertierten Freunden, die einfach jedes Detail der Reihe nach aussprechen müssen, damit sie das für sich selbst überhaupt vernünftig verarbeiten können. Ich hingegen bin sooooo zurückhaltend diesbezüglich. Ich denke mir immer, okay, ich könnte meinem Gegenüber jetzt irgendwelche Details erzählen, aber ehrlich gesagt hab ich da überhaupt keine Lust drauf, weil ich den Sachverhalt für mich ja schon geklärt habe. Meistens bleibt es dann irgendwie immer bei einem Satz und dann höre ich lieber wieder zu. Aber ich glaub, viele Extros wollen auch genau das und sind dankbar dafür: Jemanden, der zuhört. Von daher passt es ja wieder 🙂

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    • Ja, dass stimmt. Wo extrovertierte sprechen, muss es auch introvertierte Menschen geben die zuhören! 🙂 Danke, für deinen Kommentar und das du von deinen Erfahrungen erzählt hast! Ich glaube es geht vielen wie dir, ich kann das definitiv auch aus meinen Erfahrungen bestätigen!

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  6. Actually, I’m not sure why I was reading this blog post. I KNOW that I’m an introvert – but I guess, I wanted to make sure that I don’t delude myself. 😀 Well, I have many “online friends” that I love sending (lengthy) e-mails to, but I have almost no “real friends” and spend a lot of time on my own. So, I guess that’s a clear sign that I’m an introvert, isn’t it?
    I think, I’m a 9 on the introvert scale.

    Have a great week ahead!
    Another “German introvert” named Mimi 🙂

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