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These things changed since I started to accept my introverted self

Accepting yourself for who you are – fully and to 100% – isn’t easy. It really doesn’t matter what type of personality you are, I think this is something we all struggle with. But growing up as an introvert in an environment that doesn’t want to support you for the quiet and withdrawn introverted person that you are, and instead puts all their efforts into making you change something about yourself that you can’t – is a whole different level of challenge.

I think you can imagine that growing up like that wasn’t easy for me. Luckily, my family was, for the most part, very supportive, but my experience at school was different. There were actually were all my problems with being an introvert basically started.

It was not until I turned 19 when things slowly changed for the better. All beginning with finally starting to accept myself for who I was through learning more and more about the introverted personality that I am.

These things changed when I started to accept myself for the introvert that I am…

Let me break it down to give you an insight into what you can expect to happen, whenever you decide to start walking on your path to more self-acceptance as an introvert.

I stopped guilt-tripping myself for not wanting to go out to meet other people when I clearly didn’t felt like it.

This was actually an important thing for me, because up until I finally decided that this was completely wrong of me to do to myself, I always forced myself to go out and meet people whenever someone invited me. Growing up with zero friends, I thought this was the only right thing to do. Especially as I really wanted people to like me. So, saying “no” to an invitation like that felt like I was self-sabotaging myself. Now I know better. Those who lose their interest in being your friends because you said “no” were never meant to be your friend in the first place.

I instantly started to feel more comfortable and confident in my skin every day.

Yes, this is something I’m so incredibly happy about because growing up as a shy introvert, I had immense struggles with confidence. I’m still somewhat self-conscious to this day, but it’s not nearly as bad as it was when I was a teenager. And I think that this is all thanks to knowing who I am today and learning more and more about my introverted personality every day.

I stopped trying to fit in other people’s expectations of me.

As the introvert that I am, I know very well how different I am compared to the rest of society. Add being highly sensitive to the list, and here you have someone who is basically not made to be part of the fast-paced, extroverted society dominating the world. And knowing my truth and who really I am has immensely lowered the pressure that I put on myself daily to fit into other people’s expectations of how my life should look like. And I’m so grateful for that because now I feel free to decide how my life should look without thinking about what others might think or would do differently.

And lastly, I’m happy.

I’m genuinely glad to be me, the highly sensitive introvert who loves to spend time alone, hide in her room to read or play video games all day, and not be seen for days until she feels ready to go outside to interact with people again. And that’s perfectly fine. I do what feels right to me, and I’m never again ignoring my needs and desires only so other people like me or accept me.

My journey to more self-acceptance as an introvert…

I know that my journey of self-acceptance and self-love isn’t finished yet, and I’m quite sure that I still have a long way to go, but I’m proud of every step that I already took to be where I am at now. And I hope that one day, you also will be able to accept yourself for the introvert you are – fully and unconditionally! I know, it’s often not as easy as we wish and want it to be, but it’s worth every bit of struggle you might be facing along the way.

Your worth isn’t defined by what other people think or say about you. You’re worthy. You’re enough. Don’t let other people tell you otherwise.

Do you want to know if you will become more introverted the older you get? >> Check out my blog post “Do we become more introverted or extroverted with age?” to see if you’re right!

For more inspiration regarding personal growth as an introvert check out my social media (Instagram, Facebook or TikTok). I would really be thrilled to welcome you on all of my platforms and let you into my daily life as an introvert.


  1. This is almost like reading my own story with a few differences. I didn`t know I was an introvert until I read about it as an adult, but I to was constantly surrounded by people wanting to change me. I wondered constantly why I was so weird (the word often heard describing me) and not the same as others. Luckily a good friend of mine one day told me to be nothing but me and that was my turning point. Now I am more relaxed and happy than ever.


  2. Whitney says

    I totally relate to your story Julia and see a lot of similarities to my own journey growing up. It also took me a long time to realize I was an introvert, and even longer to align my life with it and stop apologizing for it as if it was something bad. As you touched on in this post, I think that confidence can only build when we first accept ourselves for who we are. Thank you so much for sharing!

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